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7 Signs You're Mistaking Compatibility For Love

There Are No Surprises

Some people fall in love with someone they never thought would be a good fit. 

Be open to date outside of your 'type'. Try and find someone that surprises or challenge you.

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7 Signs You're Mistaking Compatibility For Love

7 Signs You're Mistaking Compatibility For Love

https://www.bustle.com/p/7-signs-youre-mistaking-compatibility-for-love-9038922

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Feeling Safe

A relationship based on compatibility can make you feel safe and content. Relying on that feeling can become a problem if you become too dependant on your partner.

Not needing to feel vulnerable

When you're in love, you should be comfortable to reveal your good and not-so-great emotions.

Your Relationship Is "Nice"

If you can only describe your relationship as nice, but it lacks the spark of attraction, it may be difficult to be happy in the long-term. 

There Are No Surprises

Some people fall in love with someone they never thought would be a good fit. 

Be open to date outside of your 'type'. Try and find someone that surprises or challenge you.

You want to change your partner

If you find a list of flaws in your partner that you want to change, you may be focussed on compatibility. 

Love is comfortable in accepting your partner without thinking of ways to change them.

Desiring an ideal relationship

When you are in love, you won't constantly think about what your current relationship is lacking.

If you continually feel that your relationship is missing something, you may need to go find someone who behaves in the way you desire.

You Don't See Them In Your Future

You may have similar views and enjoy doing fun activities together, but this may not be enough to hold your relationship together in the long run.

It is also important to be romantically compatible.

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Getting To The Root Of Your Reluctance

If you find it difficult to share your past experiences, ask yourself why you are reluctant to open up. Getting to the root of the reluctance is key.

Work Out Your Feelings First

Before you talk to your partner about something difficult, find the right words to express it first. Until you can verbalize it, it remains unknown to you and to your partner.

If you do not feel safe enough to talk through these issues, consider journaling, or talking with a counsellor until you are clear about how you are feeling.

Open Up In Small Steps

When you decide to open up, start by taking small steps to test the waters first.

The more you practice and see that you can do it, the easier it will get for you to open up.

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Chemistry vs. compatibility
  • Compatibility refers to the similarities between lifestyles and values that form the relationship without too much forcing or compromising on anyone’s part.
  • Chemistry
Judging people

Don't judge someone by the information they put in an online profile. They may look like a perfect fit, but lack the chemistry when you finally meet in person.

Similarly, it can be easy to write someone off because your ideals don't match on paper. Who's to know if you won't have chemistry in real life?