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How to Create a Breakthrough in Any Area of Your Life

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We all have stories, those narratives we tell ourselves about why we can or cannot do or achieve something in our lives. Whether we believe we can or can’t, we’re usually right, because our expectation controls our focus, perceptions, and the way in which we feel and act.

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How to Create a Breakthrough in Any Area of Your Life

How to Create a Breakthrough in Any Area of Your Life

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Key Ideas

Defining breakthroughs

Breakthroughs are those moments in time when the impossible becomes possible.

If anyone wants to thrive in any area of their life, they have to reach a point of breakthrough where they will not settle for anything less than extraordinary in that area.

Your strategies

These are the shortcuts that help people get more done in less time. 

Don't rely on luck, build your strategy. Luck is what you do for a day or a week, strategies are what make it consistently happen for decades. 

Your story

We all have stories, those narratives we tell ourselves about why we can or cannot do or achieve something in our lives. Whether we believe we can or can’t, we’re usually right, because our expectation controls our focus, perceptions, and the way in which we feel and act.

Your state

We all develop emotional patterns, also known as moods: mental or emotional states that tend to filter how we look at our lives.

They determine whether we find the strategies necessary to succeed and whether we come up with a story that will empower us.

Breath and stress

For people who are experiencing stress at any given moment, a form of relief can be to take a couple of deep breaths. 

Most people only use 20% of their lung capacity taking small short breaths. By taking the time to fill your lungs and release, you can not only improve your health but also radically decrease the anxiety related to that moment. 

What we focus on

Whatever we focus on effects our state and our state then effects the story we have about who we are, what’s life about, what’s possible and what’s not. 

Tony Robbins

Tony Robbins

"Where focus goes, energy flows."

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How you speak to yourself

It directly influences how you experience things in life.

Our words play an important part in shaping our existence, so if your internal self-talk is negative, your external exper...

Words and emotions

The words we attach to our experience become our experience. 

Words have a biochemical effect on the body. For example, if you use a word like “devastated,” you’re going to produce a very different biochemical effect than if you say, “I’m a bit disappointed.

Start with a small shift

Replace just one word that will transform the way you experience something “negative.” This is how you create a choice instead of a habitual reaction.

These small changes in your vocabulary give you the power to change your experiences in life by lowering the intensity of negative emotions to the point where they no longer control you.

What we regret

The regrets that bother us the most involve failing to live up to our “ideal selves.” 

We’re not as bothered by the mistakes we’ve made or the things we ought to have done as w...

The theory of the 3 selves
  • The actual self is what a person believes to be now, based on current attributes and abilities. 
  • The ideal self is comprised of the attributes and abilities a person would like to possess one day— goals, hopes, and aspirations. 
  • The ought self is who someone believes they should have been according to their obligations and responsibilities.
Regretting what we don't do

People regret their inactions more than their actions in the long term.

  • A mistake makes you feel a great deal of regret, but you get over it quickly because you most likely can fix it.
  • You can’t fix what was never done in the first place. Inaction, the utter lack of trying, is what will truly haunt you. 
Outer order contributes to inner calm
Outer order contributes to inner calm

And it’s far easier to keep up than to catch up, and with the right habits, clutter never accumulates.

The Strategy of Convenience

Make it as easy as possible to maintain order:

  • Use hooks instead of hangers. 
  • Have abundant waste baskets.
  • Clear out everything you don't need, don't use, or don't love, so there's more room for what remains. When it's hard to put things away, we create clutter.
The Strategy of Clarity

Know exactly what you expect:

  • Have an exact place for items (keys, sunglasses, batteries, etc.)
  • Know who's responsible for what task. Avoid the  problem of shared work.

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Wanting everything at once

Most people want to change themselves completely. The problem is wanting to do everything at once.

Because this intense motivational boost can backfire — you shift from over-enthusiasm...

Success

It is a byproduct of self-discipline — it requires a method, not just a positive attitude.

Rather than worrying about the end result, focus on how to make daily progress.

Self-control is limited
Self-control is critical to developing new habits and overcome resistance.

But by pushing ourselves too hard, we exhaust the mental muscles needed to stay focused, to avoid temptations, and to persist in the face of frustration or failure. 

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Seven universal plots
Seven universal plots

There are only seven plots that are so fundamental to the way we tell stories that every storyteller uses one of them: Overcoming Monsters, Rags to Riches, The Quest, Voyage and Return Rebirth,...

Economic history

Looking for a few universal plot patterns reveals things fundamental to how all people think, which are likely to be repeated in the future and relevant to your own situation. This idea also applies to how the economy works.

Economic history can seem complicated because it's part of politics, psychology, sociology, criminology, biology, military, technology, education, finance, etc. But within all that complexity is a lot of similarities.

The lens to look through
  • People seem to want the same economic things – security, power, admiration, fulfillment.
  • They tend to use the same tactics to acquire those things - work, risk, incentives, persuasion, theft, control.
  • They tend to fall for the same flaws pursuing those things - overconfidence, pessimism, underestimating how fast things can change, etc.

Although economic history may seem complicated, there are only a small number of broad story plots throughout the world and throughout time.

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Your resolve

The secret to effectively setting and achieving your goals is to have a large vision and an achievable plan.

The pursuit matters

The pursuit matters just as much as the goal.
Consider why you're pursuing your goal and how the journey to achieve it will help you grow as a person.

The right scope

People often give up on their resolutions because they set unattainable goals.

Try to set a goal that you can reasonably achieve within one year. If it is challenging to complete it in your set timeframe, you might become overwhelmed and give up. If the goal will take more than one year, try and set a benchmark for what you'd like to accomplish in a year.

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Negativity bias and feedback
Receiving criticism will always have a greater impact than receiving praise.

And we remember criticism strongly but inaccurately. But although criticism is more lik...

Criteria for effective feedback
  • The feedback provider is credible in the eyes of the feedback recipient;
  • The feedback provider is trusted by the feedback recipient;
  • The feedback is conveyed with good intentions;
  • The timing and circumstances of giving the feedback are appropriate;
  • The feedback is given in an interactive manner;
  • The feedback message is clear;
  • The feedback is helpful to recipient.
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W. Somerset Maugham
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“If you don’t change your beliefs, your life will be like this forever. Is that good news?”

Challenging areas in your life

Consider how you’re doing in the following areas:

  • Finances. Are you feeling financial pressure in your life? Do you have all the things you need or really want? How much money do you have in savings? Do you have the income you desire? Is that income secure?
  • Relationships. Are your relationships satisfying? 
  • Health. Are you taking good care of yourself? 
  • Fun & Adventure. Are you doing the things you really want to do?
  • Any other aspect of your life in which you’re experiencing dissatisfaction. 

If you’re not pleased with your life, a limiting belief could be the cause.

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Emotional Intelligence
Emotional Intelligence (EQ or EI) can be defined as the ability to understand, manage, and effectively express one's own feelings, as well as engage and navigate successfully with those of oth...
Reduce Negative Emotions

... so they don't overwhelm you and affect your judgment. 

In order to change the way you feel about a situation, you must first change the way you think about it. 

Increased fear of rejection: “I’m applying for my dream job. I’ll be devastated if they don’t hire me.”
Decreased fear of rejection: “I’m applying for three exciting positions. If one doesn’t pan out, there are two more I’m well qualified for.”

Stay Cool and Manage Stress

How we handle stressful situations can make the difference between being assertive versus reactive, and poised versus frazzled. When under pressure, the most important thing to keep in mind is to keep our cool. 

  • If you feel nervous and anxious, put cold water on your face and get some fresh air. 
  • If you feel fearful, depressed, or discouraged, try intense aerobic exercises. Energize yourself. 

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Emotions

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Feelings

Feelings are preceded by emotions and tend to be our reactions to them. Emotions are a more generalized experience across humans, but feelings are more subjective and influenced by our personal experiences and interpretations, thus they are harder to measure.

Negative Emotions

They can be defined as unpleasant or unhappy emotions evoked in individuals to express a negative effect towards something.

Although some are labeled negative, all emotions are normal to the human experience. And it’s important to understand when and why negative emotions might arise, and develop positive behaviors to address them.

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