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How to Create a Breakthrough in Any Area of Your Life
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Defining breakthroughs
Breakthroughs are those moments in time when the impossible becomes possible.
If anyone wants to thrive in any area of their life, they have to reach a point of breakthrough where they will not settle for anything less than extraordinary in that area.
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Your strategies
These are the shortcuts that help people get more done in less time.
Don't rely on luck, build your strategy. Luck is what you do for a day or a week, strategies are what make it consistently happen for decades.
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Your story
We all have stories, those narratives we tell ourselves about why we can or cannot do or achieve something in our lives. Whether we believe we can or can’t, we’re usually right, because our expectation controls our focus, perceptions, and the way in which we feel and act.
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Your state
They determine whether we find the strategies necessary to succeed and whether we come up with a story that will empower us.
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Breath and stress
For people who are experiencing stress at any given moment, a form of relief can be to take a couple of deep breaths.
Most people only use 20% of their lung capacity taking small short breaths. By taking the time to fill your lungs and release, you can not only improve your health but also radically decrease the anxiety related to that moment.
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What we focus on
Whatever we focus on effects our state and our state then effects the story we have about who we are, what’s life about, what’s possible and what’s not.
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How you speak to yourself
It directly influences how you experience things in life.
Our words play an important part in shaping our existence, so if your internal self-talk is negative, your external exper...
Words and emotions
The words we attach to our experience become our experience.
Words have a biochemical effect on the body. For example, if you use a word like “devastated,” you’re going to produce a very different biochemical effect than if you say, “I’m a bit disappointed.”
Start with a small shift
Replace just one word that will transform the way you experience something “negative.” This is how you create a choice instead of a habitual reaction.
These small changes in your vocabulary give you the power to change your experiences in life by lowering the intensity of negative emotions to the point where they no longer control you.
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What we regret
The regrets that bother us the most involve failing to live up to our “ideal selves.”
We’re not as bothered by the mistakes we’ve made or the things we ought to have done as w...
The theory of the 3 selves
- The actual self is what a person believes to be now, based on current attributes and abilities.
- The ideal self is comprised of the attributes and abilities a person would like to possess one day— goals, hopes, and aspirations.
- The ought self is who someone believes they should have been according to their obligations and responsibilities.
Regretting what we don't do
People regret their inactions more than their actions in the long term.
- A mistake makes you feel a great deal of regret, but you get over it quickly because you most likely can fix it.
- You can’t fix what was never done in the first place. Inaction, the utter lack of trying, is what will truly haunt you.
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Your resolve
The secret to effectively setting and achieving your goals is to have a large vision and an achievable plan.
The pursuit matters
The pursuit matters just as much as the goal.
Consider why you're pursuing your goal and how the journey to achieve it will help you grow as a person.
The right scope
People often give up on their resolutions because they set unattainable goals.
Try to set a goal that you can reasonably achieve within one year. If it is challenging to complete it in your set timeframe, you might become overwhelmed and give up. If the goal will take more than one year, try and set a benchmark for what you'd like to accomplish in a year.