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The sensitive and undersensitive person

Some people are very sensitive to feedback, while others are the opposite. Both have their own challenges with feedback.

The sensitive person

One piece of feedback can suddenly become everything. It becomes super-sized. You may look at all your past mistakes, and it seems like you have never done anything right.

The undersensitive person

  • You often don't realise people are trying to give you feedback. They may say, "Bill is doing this," and you think "good for Bill."
  • You may acknowledge feedback, but then it doesn't stick.
  • People may say you're aloof or overbearing, and you dismiss it outright.

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We have two core human needs.

  • We want to learn and grow
  • We also have a need to be accepted and respected and loved the way we are now. Feedback suggests that how we are now is not ok.

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