We live in a world where every conversation can turn into an argument. Pew Research found that we are more polarised, more divided than we have ever been in history. It means we are not listening to each other. 

A conversation requires talking and listening, and somewhere we have lost the b...

Start your questions with who, what, when, where, why or how.

For example, instead of asking "Were you terrified?", which will produce a "yes" or "no" answer, try asking, "How did that feel?" They might have to think about it, but you'll get a much better response.

People don't care about the little details you struggle to remember. The names, dates, years, they don't care.

What they care about is you. What you're like, what you have in common.

A good conversation is brief enough to retain interest but long enough to cover the subject.

People on the radio are more aware that they're going on the record and will be more careful about what they claim to be an expert in.

Do the same. Err on the side of caution.

If they're talking about losing a loved one, don't start talking about the time you lost a loved one. If they talk about the trouble at work, don't tell them about your own troubles at work. It's not the same.

The conversation is not about you. You don't need to prove how amazing you are or...

We may listen to someone who talks for several minutes, and then thoughts will pop into your mind and draw your attention away from the conversation.

Stories and ideas will come to you, but you need to let them come and let them go.

It's condescending. It's boring. Yet we all tend to do it a lot, especially in work conversations or with our kids. We have a point to make that we keep rehashing. Don't do it.

Be present in that moment.

Don't look at your cellphone. Don't think about what you're having for dinner. If you want out of the conversation, then get out, but don't be half in half out.