5 Main Principles of Small Talk
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It’s a brief conversation between you and someone you don’t know very well.
Small talk is an essential stage of a casual conversation, especially in English-speaking cultures.
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Those that require more than a “yes” or “no” answer, are the best type of questions to ask if you’re looking to establish common ground.
Just be careful not to overdo your questioning. You don’t want the other person to feel like they’re being interrogated.
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Whenever faced with uncertainty when trying to make conversation, you might want to consider making small talk.
It can work wonders and it helps with getting to know the other.
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The purpose is to get to know the other, without making it feel like an interrogation.
Once you have got the chance to get to know a bit more about the other, you can initiate the use of deeper questions.
These allow you to create a bond and to show to the other person how interested you are in his or her life.
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