You become what you are willing to go for

Let go of the ideals, and embrace reality.

• The choice we made in the past is done, and we can’t change it. Some choices will be great, some won’t be perfect.
• Making a bad choice isn’t in conflict with our realistic, not fixed self-identity. It’s a part of it...

This is a particularly good way to navigate a request you would like to support somewhat but cannot throw your full weight behind. I particularly like this construct because it also expresses a respect for the other person's ability to choose, as well as your own. It reminds both parties o...

Most foods spoil because of the growth of microbes. Preserving food is an attempt to limit microbial growth. Food can be preserved by drying, salting, chilling, or storing in air-tight containers.

• Drying is the most effective because microbial growth is inhibited.
• Salting is...