Ask yourself this: “If I had to admit that 2% of the feedback were true, what 2% would it be?”. This gives you the opportunity to reflect on the overall feedback, and look for parts of it where maybe (just maybe) you can see yourself in there.

For example, if your boss...

If you get nonspecific, not clear feedback like, “you’re not being proactive enough” you’re going to need to dig a bit.

• Make a request such as, “can you share with me a specific example of when you think I could have been more proactive?”
• Or you can even say, “I ...

Here's what NOT to do if you get some feedback from your manager that you disagree with:

1. First, don’t completely dismiss or discount the feedback, saying something like, “that’s just wrong” or “absolutely not.”
2. Second, don’t become combative, s...

If you’re finding yourself experiencing some challenging emotions that feel hard to manage, or if you notice that you’re having a tough time processing and responding, slow the process down.

• One way to do that is by looping—repeating back what you hear the other person say. It also se...