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From Openness to Closing Yourself Off

From Openness to Closing Yourself Off

From a young age, we learn that not everyone is on our side, and not all situations are going to go our way. 

Over time, we build walls around our hearts to protect ourselves from these hurts.

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Building walls create a safe space into which you can quickly retreat, but it also leaves you trapped behind your own emotional defenses, unable to give or receive positive emotions as well as negative ones. 

This, in turn, leaves many people feeling isolated and alone.

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The fear of vulnerability is ultimately a fear of rejection or abandonment. To combat it, you must first learn to love and accept yourself with all your flaws, embarrassing stories, past mistakes, insecurities and awkwardness.  

Realize that everyone feels like this, regardless of how successful they are.

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We understand that people that we admire are imperfect, but don't find their flaws unforgivable. Yet, when it comes to ourselves, we beat ourselves up for our own imperfections.

Do not judge yourself more harshly than you judge them.

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  • Acknowledge yourself as a whole human being, flaws, imperfections and all. 
  • Own and embrace your past mistakes.
  • Apologize to anyone you feel you have significantly wronged, and then move on. 
  • Forgive yourself.
  • Stop trying to prove your value. You are important.

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It is the state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally.

We don't like to be vulnerable because we can more easily get hurt. But we want to have a quality life, and that includes having good relationships with people we trust and love.

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Emotional Regulation

It means having the skills to control your behavior, emotions and thoughts in the pursuit of long-term goals.

Emotional regulation skills enable us to live a healthy and well-balanced life, physically, mentally and spiritually.

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Overcome from your biggest fear
  1. Allow yourself to sit with your fear for 2-3 minutes at a time. ...
  2. Write down the things you are grateful for. ...
  3. Remind yourself that your anxiety is a storehouse of wisdom. ...
  4. Exercise. ...
  5. Use humor to deflate your worst fears. ...
  6. Appreciate your courage.
  7. Learn to accept

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