A Guide to Developing the Self-Discipline Habit : zen habits
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... to develop self-discipline:
One of the most important things you can do to get better at self-discipline is to take small actions.
It can seem overwhelming to start big, intimidating projects. Instead, start with easy actions, things so small you can’t say no.
One of the reasons we don’t have self-discipline is because we run from the hard, uncomfortable things. We would rather do the easy, familiar things, that distract us.
One small task at a time, push yourself into discomfort. See how it feels. See that it’s not the end of the world.
Develop mindfulness around those urges you have to quit doing something hard and see that you don’t have to follow them.
A good way to do that is to set a time for yourself where you can do nothing but X. For example, for the next 10 minutes, you can do nothing but write your book chapter (or exercise, meditate, etc.).
Don't get discouraged when you mess up. Failure means you tried. So it’s a victory from the start.
And it also means you learned something: you now know that what you tried didn’t work. Next time, you can try something a bit different.
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For most people, self-discipline is hard labor. It’s something to despise. But if you approach self-discipline with that attitude, it’s pretty hard to develop it.
Self-discipline is not hard at all. The lack of self-discipline is hard.
When you are not disciplined, you know only one part of the equation: immediate gratification (our desire to experience pleasure or fulfillment without delay).
But delayed gratification (resistance to the temptation of an immediate reward in preference for a later reward) is so much better in the long turn.
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Make a To-Do list with your goals, intentions and proposed actions, and try to stick to it.
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A lack of willpower is not the only factor that affects goal attainment.
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The elegant secret to discipline: valuing your future self as highly as you value your current self, at least long enough to get your Right Now Self to do the right thing.
You are currently experiencing the future of all your Past Selves. Their choices have come to fruition.
If you would like better fruits, make your Right Now Self into someone who, as a habit, rolls out the red carpet for Future Self.
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You may already know it won't kill you to endure the mild discomfort of starting a difficult conversation with a colleague or asking someone out. You know that it's possible to let that feeling rise and fade while doing the action anyway.
The rewards come so swiftly that this becomes a more appealing way to live.
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