Make Peace With Your Partner
Don't go to bed angry with your partner.
The end of the day means the end of hostilities, the recognition that the underlying shared values and commitment to the relationship trump the need for one last dig or self-righteous justification.
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What we remember about the pleasurable quality of our past experiences is almost entirely determined by 2 things: the emotional peak and the end.
So try to structure your days so that the ending is awesome using evening rituals.
Although the workday is over, your mind is still going strong. You gotta get your brain out of “work mode” to relax.
A simple ritual can help: Straighten up your desk. Back up your computer. Make a list of what you need to do tomorrow.
Weekends are great because we get to spend our time the way we enjoy most.
Spend 2 hours with friends or family and you just turned a dull Tuesday night into a happy Saturday.
Actively engage in a hobby, don’t passively sit on the couch.
Most of us seek unscheduled free time for our leisure but given your brain’s lazy nature, research says you’re likely to waste that time doing what’s easy vs what’s really fun.
Dim the lights and turn off all screens at least an hour before bed.
10 minutes of a smartphone in front of your nose is about the equivalent of an hour long walk in bright daylight. Imagine going for an hour long walk in bright daylight and then thinking, “Now I’ll get some sleep.” It's probably not going to happen.
... that happened during the day
Set aside 10 minutes before you go to sleep. Write down 3 things that went well today and why they went well. The odds are that you will be less depressed, happier, and addicted to this exercise six months from now.
People who devote time to anticipating fun experiences are happier.
Schedule a meal with a friend or designate a time the next day to indulge yourself with something simple that you love to do. Then be excited about it.
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Stoicism is about accepting the facts as they are and then deciding what you’re going to do about them. Nobody recommends denial. Accept. And then do something.
Of all the different things you can try to improve your productivity, a morning routine is one of the most effective:
- It gets you started and sets the tone for the upcoming day;
- They take place in the most consistent part of the day - mornings are usually quiet, with fewer social obligations.
Everybody is aware, in a certain measure, of the different truths life provides us with. One of them, which is also the scariest, is related to the fact that eventually, we all die.
However, instead of freaking out on the topic, it might be better to learn how to spend our time in a productive and enjoyable way, as if every day was the last that we get to spend with our beloved ones.