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15 Easy Ways to Find and Make Friends as an Adult

Join a Gym

Strike up a casual conversation with the person next to you.

Then, chat and say hello each time you see each other at the gym. It might be the beginning of a friendship.

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15 Easy Ways to Find and Make Friends as an Adult

15 Easy Ways to Find and Make Friends as an Adult

https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-make-friends-as-an-adult-4769076

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Focus on Being Open

Don't worry about being rejected, or that you might not be fun enough.  

Be open and inviting.

Make a List

Make a list of people that you would like to get to know better.

Consider extending an invitation and see what happens.

Put It On the Calendar

Decide when you are going to ask someone to do something together.

Schedule these initial contacts to ensure that you won't keep putting it off.

Accept Invites

Don't shy away from invitations. If someone invites you to do something, accept the invitation. 

If you are unable to accept, make an effort to do something else together instead.

Try New Things

Expand your horizons and try new things: for example, an art class or a dance class. It will open up the possibility of making friends in new and interesting places.

Leverage Social Media

The purpose of social media is to connect people.

If a friend posts something that interests you, reach out and make a connection. Use social media to organize get-togethers.

Connect With Co-Workers

You spend a large amount of time with the people you work with. You likely know a great deal about one another.

Consider inviting one of your co-workers to do something non-work related.

Join a Gym

Strike up a casual conversation with the person next to you.

Then, chat and say hello each time you see each other at the gym. It might be the beginning of a friendship.

Attend a Meet-Up

Meet-ups and other networking events are a great way to meet new people who share the same passions.

Attend Church

Churches are a great place to meet new people and make friends. There are usually other opportunities of involvement, such as a Bible study, volunteer opportunities or a weekly potluck.

Maintain the Friendships You Make

After you have made a few connections, stay in contact.

Reach out regularly to your new friends. Call or text. Show an interest in the things that are important to them.

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Finding friends

Friendships are always about common passions. Whatever you’re into, someone else is too. Let your passion guide you toward people. Volunteer, for example, take a new course or join a committee at your local religious center. If you like yoga, start going to classes regularly.

Once you meet a potential future friend, invite them to do something. You have to put yourself out there.

It takes time

The process takes time, and you may experience false starts. Not everyone will want to put in the effort necessary to be a good friend.

Which is reason enough to nurture the friendships you already have–even those than span many miles. Start by scheduling a weekly phone call. 

Be a regular

The best way to have friends is to interact with the same person regularly.

Look for activities where the same core people show up. Keep showing up yourself. 

Talk about yourself

Share some details of your life more freely so that your conversation partner doesn't have to interrogate you. If you feel uncomfortable talking too much, give yourself permission to stretch and grow.

Be the conversation starter

Most people are secretly scared of getting rejected.  Assume that people like you and act in kind.

Don't wait for them to start a conversation. Say "hello." They might be relieved you took the initiative.