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Focus on Being Open

Don't worry about being rejected, or that you might not be fun enough.  

Be open and inviting.

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15 Easy Ways to Find and Make Friends as an Adult

verywellmind.com

Make a list of people that you would like to get to know better.

Consider extending an invitation and see what happens.

Decide when you are going to ask someone to do something together.

Schedule these initial contacts to ensure that you won't keep putting it off.

Accept Invites

Don't shy away from invitations. If someone invites you to do something, accept the invitation. 

If you are unable to accept, make an effort to do something else together instead.

Expand your horizons and try new things: for example, an art class or a dance class. It will open up the possibility of making friends in new and interesting places.

The purpose of social media is to connect people.

If a friend posts something that interests you, reach out and make a connection. Use social media to organize get-togethers.

You spend a large amount of time with the people you work with. You likely know a great deal about one another.

Consider inviting one of your co-workers to do something non-work related.

Join a Gym

Strike up a casual conversation with the person next to you.

Then, chat and say hello each time you see each other at the gym. It might be the beginning of a friendship.

Attend a Meet-Up

Meet-ups and other networking events are a great way to meet new people who share the same passions.

Churches are a great place to meet new people and make friends. There are usually other opportunities of involvement, such as a Bible study, volunteer opportunities or a weekly potluck.

After you have made a few connections, stay in contact.

Reach out regularly to your new friends. Call or text. Show an interest in the things that are important to them.

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  • Find an event. Sign up for something ongoing (such as a book club or a hiking group) and commit to showing up.
  • Prepare yourself to interact. Do something to put you in a good mood. Think about the strengths you bring - if you're funny, deep, insightful, or quick-witted.
  • Open up a conversation with a stranger using the 'insight-and-question method. Share a commentary on something around you, then ask your companion's opinion of it.
  • Exchange contact information. If you meet someone you like, ask for their contact details.
  • Follow up to see if they'd be open to meeting up sometime.

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Be opportunistic

Learn to notice opportunities for potential friends. 
We let many friendship opportunities pass us by because we feel awkward or too shy. Instead of small talk, invite them for coffee and get to know them.

Don’t be interesting. Be interested.

  • Listen to people and ask them to tell you more. 
  • When they mention something you have in common, point it out.
  • Be enthusiastic and encouraging.