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13 Steps to Stop Making Excuses and Get Results in Your Life

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13 Steps to Stop Making Excuses and Get Results in Your Life

13 Steps to Stop Making Excuses and Get Results in Your Life

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Excuses

People use excuses to rationalize their actions regarding their circumstances, their actions toward other people, and regarding certain events. It is also one of the primary reasons why people are unable to accomplish what they want out of life.

Stop comparing

When you are comparing yourself to others, you are probably only seeing part of the whole picture.

If you are making an excuse not to try something new, because you are comparing yourself to others who are experts in the field, remember that they were also inexperienced at some stage.

Stop fearing the unknown

The unknown can be scary, but it may not be a negative thing. Many good things can come from taking a step into the unknown.

Stop blaming others

Playing the blame game is very destructive. The blame game entails blaming someone else for something that happened to you and staying convinced that it was someone else's fault.

Instead, be proactive and make the necessary changes to resolve a situation.

Take responsibility

Take ownership of your own actions and their consequences to gain the respect of other people.

Indirect responsibility involves moving beyond yourself to take necessary action to help other people.  

Take action

Part of taking action involves taking risks with the big plans you have in mind. 

Stop making excuses and take the action that is needed.

Set small, attainable goals

Many people feel overwhelmed with large goals and so they don't know where to start.

Break down your ultimate goal into many smaller goals that are attainable, so you can make progress.

Learn from your mistakes

Mistakes are learning opportunities. One can analyze what went wrong, what to avoid and how to do better in the future.

Don’t focus on your weaknesses

Be aware of your weaknesses, but do not focus on them.  Focus on your strengths.

Delegate the tasks where you know you will not be able to do a good job.

You have the power to change

Do not make excuses for being complacent. It only takes motivation to change. If you feel unsure of how to change, enlist some help from other people.

Self-efficacy

Having self-efficacy means you are confident in your own abilities to handle situations. 

Rise to the challenge to overcome the hardships that comes your way.

Visualize your success

Visualize what achieving your goal will look and feel like. It can motivate you to accomplish your goals.

You’re not perfect

No one is perfect. Accept your mistakes and realize that other people are willing to accept your mistakes as well, especially if you own up an learn from them.

A habit that can be changed

Making excuses is a habit that is limiting your ability to meet your full potential. 

But you can change the habit of making excuses. Find out what you are really trying to avoid (for example, doing extra work or giving up your free time) and address the issues head on.

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Defining excuses

Excuses are rationalizations we make to ourselves about people, events, and circumstances. 

They are invented reasons we create to defend our behavior, to postpone taking action or simpl...

The Fear Trap

We make excuses for the following key reasons:

  • Fear of Failure
  • Fear of Embarrassment
  • Fear of Success
  • Fear of Change
  • Fear of Uncertainty
  • Fear of Responsibility
  • Fear of Making Mistakes
  • Perceived lack of confidence or resources
To successfully eliminate excuses we must first consider removing all traces of fear. Fear paralyzes us and prevents forward movement in all areas of our lives.
'There’s just not enough time'
This excuse means a lack of desire, focus, discipline, and direction.
It suggests the wrong priorities or time management problems. It could also indicate laziness or procrastination.

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Excuse-making

It's a defense mechanism you use in the battle between your positive self-identity and the common challenges of everyday life.

This habit comes down to an inherent need to protect your...

The self-serving bias

It encourages you to claim your successes and to deflect your failures.

When something good happens, you take the credit, but when something bad happens, you blame it on something out of your control.

Common types of excuses
  • Lies: This is one of the worst types of excuses—a straight-up lie.
  • Self-handicapping excuses: Such as “I don’t have the skills to do that”, or “That’s not my job.”
  • Blame-shifting excuses: Instead of putting the blame on your lack of abilities, you accuse external factors for your missteps or lack of performance.

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Excuses Breed More Failure

When you are disappointed, you have two choices on how to respond:  You can find out how you could have done it differently, or you can tell yourself that you were not at fault.

Personal Responsibility Breeds Success

Making excuses allows you to externalize your failures and blame something else. It also demotivates you when you feel the outcomes in your life are out of your control.

Taking up responsibility does the opposite: It leads to introspection where you can analyze what you could have done differently. It will motivate you to work better and harder.

How To Stop Making Excuses

It all comes down to the stories you tell yourself when you feel overwhelmed or fail.

If you work too much and don’t have time for fun, do you tell yourself that people demand too much from you? Or, do you tell yourself you don’t prioritize your own time well enough?

In one story you are in control, and the other you are not. Focus on the story you can control.

Fear of rejection

The main reason why we are having a hard time declining other people's requests is that we are afraid to be rejected. We are afraid that people might think negatively. 

Stop Saying Yes When You Want to Say No
  • Saying No Doesn’t Mean You’re a Bad Person: Saying no doesn't mean that you are being rude, selfish, or unkind. These are all unhelpful beliefs that make it hard to say no. Learning where these beliefs have come from is a great way to learn to let go of them.
  • Knowing Your Value:  Learning to say no is realizing that you are valuable and choosing your own opinion about yourself over others.
  • Is It Really Worth It?: Learning to say no is also deciding if saying yes is really worth it. Think about the anguish, stress, and resentment that saying yes has caused you. Wouldn't it be so much easier and straightforward to just say no in the first place?
Helpful Tips for Saying No
  • Be direct.
  • Don't apologize and give all sorts of reasons.
  • Be honest.
  • Don't delay your response.
  • Be polite.
  • Practice saying no. This will get you feeling a lot more comfortable with saying no.
  • Know your worth. Don't mind what other think of you.
Ask "Is This True?"

An excuse is often masking the real, but hidden reason you're avoiding doing something.

If you catch yourself making an excuse, ask yourself if it is true, to discover what lies behind the ex...

Reflect On Your Excuses

At the end of each day, take a few minutes to look back on the excuses made that day, and try to figure out why you made them. 

Look for better ways to approach them.

Find People To Call You Out

Surround yourself with people who will hold you responsible for your excuses. 

Find someone who will check in on you each day to ensure you met your goals.

Productivity is a deeply personal thing
We all have different brains and, therefore, different preferences, perspectives, and situations where we feel most effective. In order to find what works, you have to understand your own psychology.
Action has momentum
So developing personal rituals to get your own snowball rolling downhill is far more important than what yerba mate supplements to take, or what yoga mat to sit on in the morning. 
Work as a linear function

We assume that the amount of productive output we create is directly proportional to the number of hours we input. But the truth is that most thoughtful, brain-intensive work does not unfold like this. The only work that is linear is really basic, repetitive stuff.

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Fear-based decision making

It's when you let your fears or worries dictate your actions (or, in most cases, your lack of action).

The unfortunate result is that you don't do the things that you say are impo...

Low stakes goals

Don’t pick goals where the stakes are low. Failing in a safe zone is just a clever way of holding yourself back.

If you fail inside your comfort zone, it's not really a failure, it's just maintaining the status quo. If you never feel uncomfortable, then you're never trying anything new.

Nobody is rooting for you to fail

Maybe you'll succeed. Maybe you'll fail. For the most part, nobody cares one way or the other.

The world is big and you are small, and that means you can chase your dreams with little worry about what people think.

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Why diversity matters.
Why diversity matters.

Diverse Companies with a wide range of employees enjoy broader skill sets, experiences, and points of view.

How to Increase Diversity and Boost Performance
  • Develop an equal opportunity policy.
  • Be transparent about hiring criteria.

  • Improve retention of minority workers.

  • Analyze problems and adapt. Train managers to spot their biases and avoid communicating in ways that unconsciously deter minority candidates.

  • Implement workplace flexibility.

You don’t care enough about the audience

Most people think they are the most important player in a presentation. They are wrong. The audience, the listeners, the people watching the presenter are the most important players.

The Words and the Design

The work on the presentation slides should be clear, crisp, concise, with fewer words and more visually striking simple imagery.

Long sentences and tiny words going through the whole slide are not advisable.

Lack of Practice

Invest your time practicing thoughtfully and getting in a zone where you are a natural.

An effortless-looking presentation makes the audience love it, even though you have toiled hard to make it look effortless.

Seneca

“As long as you live, keep learning how to live.”

Seneca
A personal Philosophy

We all need personal philosophy in life or we risk wandering and responding to random stimuli and information with little or no impact on our long-term goals.

Marcus Aurelius
Marcus Aurelius

“You could leave life right now. Let that determine what you do and say and think.”

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