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How to Toughen Up (Mentally, That Is)
What It Means to Be Tough
Toughness is experiencing something that is subjectively distressing, and then leaning in, paying attention, and creating space to take a thoughtful action that aligns with your core values.
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What It Means to Be Tough
Toughness is experiencing something that is subjectively distressing, and then leaning in, paying attention, and creating space to take a thoughtful action that aligns with your core values.
Know Your Core Values
Think of 3-5 things that matter most to you. They may be guiding principles of your life or aspects of the person you want to become.
Then write a sentence or two on each, describing what they mean to you. These are the values you’ll want to act in service of when the going gets tough.
Embrace Pain, but Don’t React to It
When you react to it, that's when it transforms into suffering.
You can learn to experience pain neutrally is through meditation: it teaches you to accept pain, sit with it and then move on, instead of reacting to it with stress.
Develop a Mantra
A mantra is a short and meaningful phrase you repeat to yourself.
When you're facing a stressful situation, it helps by occupying the brain enough so that it doesn’t get caught up in obsessing, planning, and catastrophizing.
Stress + Rest = Growth
Don’t turn away from challenges. If you want to get better at anything, you’ve got to stress yourself.
Just make sure that you follow these challenges with periods of rest and recovery.
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What Perspective Taking Is
It’s the ability to take on someone else’s point of view when thinking.
By taking yourself out of the equation, the motivations of your opponent becomes clearer. And by understanding the othe...
Develop perspective taking
- Put aside your feelings so that you can concentrate only on the other person’s perspective.
- Use open ended questions that can help you draw out the interests and motivation that the person may not be verbalizing.
- Be clear about your own position and the weaknesses it has.
- Remove any personal intentions you may have, so as not to project them on to the other person.
- Using what you know about the person, their background, their mood, their intentions and expectations, imagine how they are seeing the current situation.
- Validate their position by paraphrasing back to them what you think their position is.
Using perspective taking
When you break it down, almost every aspect of business involves an element of negotiation.
By honing your perspective taking skills, you are much more likely to come up with solutions that are acceptable to all parties.
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Managing Letdowns
Every athlete is bound to face at least a few major letdowns in his or her career. When this happens, you want to let yourself feel down for a good 24 to 48 hours.
But afte...
Dealing With Uncertainty
- Prevent it: Do what you can to minimize uncertainty by training like you want to race.
- Manage it: Develop a mantra or automatic actions to fall back when uncertainty strikes.
- Grow from it: View uncertainty as an opportunity to grow. Welcome it on the path to personal growth.
Turning Anxiety into Excitement
Pre-race nerves are common, even amongst professional athletes.
Reframe nerves as excitement. When we do this, we harness heightened perception to raise ourselves up.
Instead of telling yourself, “I’m anxious, I need to calm down,” tell yourself, “I am excited, my body is primed to perform.”
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Uncomfortable situations
Besides the well-known health advantages, in a world where comfort is king, arduous physical activity provides a rare opportunity to practice embracing uncomfortable situations.
Exercise is a keystone habit
A change in one life area that brings about positive effects in other area. Exercise it’s not just vanity. What you do in the gym makes you a better, higher-performing person outside of it. When you develop physical fitness, you’re developing life fitness, too.