Think of 3-5 things that matter most to you. They may be guiding principles of your life or aspects of the person you want to become.
Then write a sentence or two on each, describing what they mean to you. These are the values you’ll want to act in service of when the going gets tough.
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Toughness is experiencing something that is subjectively distressing, and then leaning in, paying attention, and creating space to take a thoughtful action that aligns with your core values.
When you react to it, that's when it transforms into suffering.
You can learn to experience pain neutrally is through meditation: it teaches you to accept pain, sit with it and then move on, instead of reacting to it with stress.
A mantra is a short and meaningful phrase you repeat to yourself.
When you're facing a stressful situation, it helps by occupying the brain enough so that it doesn’t get caught up in obsessing, planning, and catastrophizing.
Don’t turn away from challenges. If you want to get better at anything, you’ve got to stress yourself.
Just make sure that you follow these challenges with periods of rest and recovery.
Every athlete is bound to face at least a few major letdowns in his or her career. When this happens, you want to let yourself feel down for a good 24 to 48 hours.
But after two days have passed, it’s critical to shift from ruminating on the past to focusing on the future. Select the next goal and begin mapping out a process to get there.
It’s the ability to take on someone else’s point of view when thinking.
By taking yourself out of the equation, the motivations of your opponent becomes clearer. And by understanding the other side’s true motivations, you’re in a better position to anticipate their responses and offer them an acceptable compromise.