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HENRY CLOUD

"When one person is in control of another, love cannot grow deeply and fully, as there is no freedom.”  

HENRY CLOUD

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You need to evaluate the effects of setting boundaries and be responsible to the other person, but that does not mean you should avoid setting boundaries because someone responds with hurt or anger.

Boundaries are just like a 'property line in one's life'. Just like in real life you have a property and the property line. Whatever is inside the property line is your responsibility and you have control over those. If anything bad happens there then you will feel sorrow for that. 

Your envy should always be a sign to you that you are lacking something. At that moment, you should ask God to help you understand what you resent, why you do not have whatever you are envying, and whether you truly desire it. Ask him to show you what you need to do to get there, or to give up th...

These false motives and others keep us from setting boundaries: 

Many times when people hear a talk on boundaries and taking responsibility for their own lives, they say, “That’s so self-centered. We should love one another and deny ourselves.” Or, they actually become selfish and self-centered. Or, they feel “guilty” when they do someone a favor. 

“You reap whatever you sow. If you sow to your own flesh, you will reap corruption from the flesh; but if you sow to the Spirit, you will reap eternal life from the Spirit”

We fear that others will not respect our boundaries. We focus on others and lose clarity about ourselves.

When a baby bird is ready to hatch, if you break the egg for the bird, it will die. The bird must peck its own way out of the egg into the world. This aggressive “workout” strengthens the bird, allowing it to function in the outside world. Robbed of this responsibility, it will die.

  1. Confession: You have the power to agree with the truth about your problems.
  2. You have the power to submit your inability to God. 
  3. You have the power to search and ask God and others to reveal more and more about what is within your boundaries.

  1. Say 'NO' to bad
  2. Avoid saying 'NO' to good.
  3. Respect other's boundaries (when they say 'NO')

A boundary is a property line. It defines where you begin and end. We have been discussing why you need such a line. One reason stands above all the others: You do not exist in a vacuum. You exist in relation to God and others. Your boundaries define you in relation to others.

"For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction."

  1. The Law of Sowing and Reaping
  2. The Law of Responsibility
  3. The Law of Power
  4. The Law of Respect
  5. The Law of Motivation
  6. The Law of Evaluation
  7. The Law of Proactivity
  8. The Law of Envy
  9. The Law of Activity
  10. The Law of Exposure

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