One way to avoid them is to “assume the burden of the conversation,” One might use self-disclosure to change the topic, and say, ‘Golf isn’t my thing, but I really like to cycle.’ Or, if someone asks about something sad or bad, throw the conversational ball back and say, ‘I just can’t talk about that right now, but what’s going on in your life?’”
Pauses are natural and, if you wait it out, the other person might revive the conversation. You can also circle back to an earlier topic, but if you’ve reached the end, exit the conversation in a polite way.
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Say you forget a name, or introduce yourself anew to someone you’ve already met, or spill your drink all over your host’s white carpeting?
Admit the predicament, apologize with sincerity and move on.
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You can use the white flag, as in car racing, to indicate “they have one more lap and then it’s over."
Acknowledge what you’ve heard — “Gosh, it sounds like you really have a passion for skiing,” and then give someone a warning that the conversation is almost over. For exa...
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Being a party guest is easy. Being a great party guest takes work.
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Don't let the fear of missing out get you after you exit a party.
It’s just one party. There’s always another one around the corner. Reward yourself with Netflix or a bath or a pizza and the simple satisfaction that you survived. And maybe you even had fun, too?
Phones complicate the equation, even though they feel like an escape.
You’re not making eye contact or noticing how people in the room are feeling, and you’re probably missing out on some really good conversations by staring at your screen, which you can do all you want when you get home. A...
The person who walks in alone at a party, that’s the most approachable person.
If you feel intensely awkward about standing in the middle of the room and smiling, or actually approaching someone else — this really does work, the experts say, though it also sounds terrifying — you have alternatives. One thing that is really powerful is to have a job.
Getting past the initial hellos can itself be a juggernaut. Do you hug, shake hands or kiss on one cheek, or both, or three times, in the European style? What if you hate being touched?
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Take a moment to identify, realistically, what your purpose is for going. Is it:
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It’s time to start meeting your fellow partygoers and impressing them with your warm and witty repartee. But how do you do that?
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Mingling is an art, but remember what you're here for: to have fun and meet people.
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One huge conversational mistake is not picking up clues about how other people are reacting to you. But keep in mind, we all have different conversational styles.
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You could ask a question:
Or give a compliment:
Whatever you do, _do _say hello, and be genuine.
If you’re the type who walks into a room and you don’t know what to say and you don’t say hello, never think they’re going to give you the benefit of the doubt. They’re going to think you’re avoiding them or a snob.
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The classic rule is to show up with something in hand. Nowadays, however, you don’t always need to show up with something for your good friends. If you feel more comfortable arriving with a bottle of wine or a token of your appreciation, by all means, go for it.
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