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Harley J.

@harleyjj93

Determine your borders

Our boundaries are shaped by

our heritage or culture
the region we live in or come from
whether we’re introverted, extroverted, or somewhere in between
our life experiences
our family dynamics

Boundaries are a deeply personal choice and vary from person to person. You can investigate and define your boundaries with self-reflection.

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The No BS Guide to Setting Healthy Boundaries in Real Life

healthline.com

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Love & Relationships

Communication

Self Improvement

The Guide to Strong Boundaries

PSA: Setting strong personal boundaries are not a cure-all for your relationship woes (or your lost keys). In fact, they're more of a side effect of having a healthy self-esteem and a general low level of neediness with people around you. Boundaries in relationships work both ways: they create emotional health and are created by people with emotional health.

markmanson.net

You Have A Boundary Issue If…

you feel like people take advantage of you or use your emotions for their own gain.
you feel like you’re constantly having to “save” people close to you and fix their problems all the ...

Personal Boundaries

Having healthy personal boundaries means taking responsibility for your own actions and emotions, while NOT blaming others.

People with high self-esteem have strong personal boundaries. And practicing strong personal boundaries is one way to build self-esteem.

Poor Boundaries

People who blame others for their own emotions and actions do so because they believe that if they constantly paint themselves as a victim, eventually someone will come to save them.

People who take the blame for other people’s emotions and actions are always looking to save someone.

Predictably, these two types of people are drawn strongly to one another, yet completely fail to meet each other's true need to feel loved. The real solution would be for both to take responsibility for their own problems.

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Rafael N.

@raf_kn21

Healthy Personal Boundaries & How to Establish Them

Learning to set healthy personal boundaries is necessary for maintaining a positive self-concept, or self-image. It is our way of communicating to others that we have self-respect, self-worth, and will not allow others to define us. Personal boundaries are the physical, emotional and mental limits we establish to protect ourselves from being manipulated, used, or violated by others.

essentiallifeskills.net

Learning to set healthy personal boundaries

Know that you have a right to personal boundaries.
Recognize that other people's needs and feelings are not more important than your own.
Learn to say no.
I...

Remington O.

@remington_do38

10 Way to Build and Preserve Better Boundaries

Below, she offers insight into building better boundaries and maintaining them. 1. Name your limits. You can't set good boundaries if you're unsure of where you stand. So identify your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual limits, Gionta said. Consider what you can tolerate and accept and what makes you feel uncomfortable or stressed.

psychcentral.com

Name your limits

You can’t set good boundaries if you’re unsure of where your limits are.

Identify what you can permit and accept and what makes you feel uncomfortable or stressed.

Tune into your feelings

There are two key feelings that are red flags that you are letting go of your boundaries.

Discomfort. Ask yourself what is causing the discomfort.
Resentment. Resentment usually comes from being taken advantage of or not appreciated.

Be direct

With some people, maintaining healthy boundaries doesn’t require a direct and clear-cut dialogue.

There are other times you might need to be frank, such as with those who have a different personality or cultural background.

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