10. Understand and nurture relationships

The Four Levels of Motivation

1. Fear - is being driven by negative things like sickness, poverty, and death.
2. Desire - is being driven by personal gratification through wealth, success, and pleasure.
3. Duty - is being moti...

The first step to thinking like a monk is to get clear on your values. How?

1. List your values.
2. Identify the origin of that value.
3. Reflect on whether or not that value aligns with your true self.

When we use our passions and expertise to provide something that others need, we will have true happiness and fulfillment.

Dharma = Passion + Expertise + Usefulness

“Your passion is for you. Your purpose is for others” - Jay Shetty

• Studies show that gratitude is linked to better mental health, self-awareness, better relationships, and a sense of fulfillment.
• Every night, spend five minutes writing down the things you are grateful for.

Take control of the beginning and end of our days with a good morning routine and evening routine.

For the morning routine,

1. Thankfulness
2. Insight
3. Meditation
4. Exercise

Jay says, “Take care of yourself—yes. But don’t wait until you have enough time and money to serve. You will never have enough.” He also asks, “Who is wealthier, the one with money or the one who serves?”

He also urges us to serve with a kind intention witho...

In order to use fear productively, we need to

1. Acknowledge the fear
2. Rate the fear (0-10)
3. Find your fear patterns
4. Detach from the fear

Accept that f...

• The key to mastering the mind is detachment. Instead of telling yourself “I am angry”, you can say, “I feel angry” or “There is anger.” Don’t identify with the emotion; observe it.
• The Monkey Mind

In order to overcome bad habits, Use Spot, Stop, Swap:

1. Spot the negative feeling.
2. Stop to understand what it is.
3. Swap in a way of processing the feeling.