Prince Rahul's Key Ideas from Think Like a Monk
by Jay Shetty

In order to overcome bad habits, Use Spot, Stop, Swap:

1. Spot the negative feeling.
2. Stop to understand what it is.
3. Swap in a way of processing the feeling.

In order to use fear productively, we need to

1. Acknowledge the fear
2. Rate the fear (0-10)
3. Find your fear patterns
4. Detach from the fear

Accept that fear is temporary and that you can’t truly own it or control it. When we no longer try to control it, we will feel our fear dissolve, and we will feel gratitude and freedom.

The Four Levels of Motivation

1. Fear - is being driven by negative things like sickness, poverty, and death.
2. Desire - is being driven by personal gratification through wealth, success, and pleasure.
3. Duty - is being motivated by gratitude, responsibility, and doing the right thing.
4. Love - is being motivated by helping and caring for others.

The why ladder - Dig to the deepest why behind the want.

When we use our passions and expertise to provide something that others need, we will have true happiness and fulfillment.

Dharma = Passion + Expertise + Usefulness

“Your passion is for you. Your purpose is for others” - Jay Shetty

Take control of the beginning and end of our days with a good morning routine and evening routine.

For the morning routine,

1. Thankfulness
2. Insight
3. Meditation
4. Exercise

For the evening routine,

• Remove small decisions from your next morning by dealing with them now. Every little decision takes away energy. Examples: what to eat, what to wear, what to do.
• Go to sleep with good thoughts because the emotion you fall asleep with will likely be the emotion you’ll wake up with.

• The key to mastering the mind is detachment. Instead of telling yourself “I am angry”, you can say, “I feel angry” or “There is anger.” Don’t identify with the emotion; observe it.
• The Monkey Mind is like a child that needs attention. The Monk Mind is like the mature adult.

To practice detachment, we can take on temporary challenges and austerities, such as

• Giving up TV or your phone
• Taking on a physical challenge
• Abstaining from gossip, complaining, and comparing

The ego is problematic in many ways:

1. It makes us liars, which breaks trust
2. It creates false hierarchies, which creates discrimination and ruins kindness
3. It creates judgment, which ruins our character
4. It creates arrogance and prevents learning and growth

Use this table to build your self-esteem. To reduce ego, we can do two things:

• Cultivate humility
• Detach from the ego.

• Studies show that gratitude is linked to better mental health, self-awareness, better relationships, and a sense of fulfillment.
• Every night, spend five minutes writing down the things you are grateful for.

Five reasons people get attracted to someone else:

• Physical – you like their looks
• Material – you like their possessions, power, or accomplishments
• Intellectual – you like how they think
• Emotional – you connect well. They understand your feelings.
• Spiritual – they share your deepest goals and values

Have deep conversations with people and really give them your presence and attention.

Stages of trust - refer image!

Jay says, “Take care of yourself—yes. But don’t wait until you have enough time and money to serve. You will never have enough.” He also asks, “Who is wealthier, the one with money or the one who serves?”

He also urges us to serve with a kind intention without wanting anything in return. When we serve with a pure intention, their happiness is our happiness.