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8 Good Reasons Why Change Is Hard
Solving Problems
We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them. For change to come, you should be willing to change your current position in life.
You should have a stronger character that believes that a solution is possible. Teach your mind that you are not defined by your problems.
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“Change” means changing your identity
It’s one thing to say, “I want to start going to the gym weekly.” It’s another to say, “It’s time to change and become the type of person who goes to the gym weekly.”
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Motivated By Positive Emotions
Negative emotions may trigger us to think about everything we’re not doing, or feel like we’re doing wrong, but they're ineffective for making changes that stick. Real change needs a positive pl...
Trapped By Thinking Fallacies
Feeling overwhelmed by trying to change a behavior often makes us charge into change, and see failure as a sign of incapacity. But this straps us into a no-win situation because you are unlikely to sustain the initial momentum to change for long.
If we really want to change, one of the first things we have to do is take all-or-nothing off the table, and purge a few other thinking errors while we’re at it.
More Than We Can Handle
It’s almost never possible to tackle all of a change at once. We have to start with particular, very specific and measurable actions.
Each specific action is one forkful of behavior change and a set of those actions engaged over time results in a cumulative change. And accompanying those cumulative actions, we need realistic and specific goals as they provide targets to measure ourselves against.
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There is no such a thing as a "gym person"
There are just people who go to the gym.
Similarly, there’s no such thing as a “productive person.” There are just people who do productive things fairly often.
Keep your “self” out of your decisions
Think of your life as a long sequence of actions and decisions.
Just ask yourself, “Is this a good thing to do?” If the answer is Yes, go do it.