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Genuinely Check-In

Genuinely Check-In

Ask yourself this: Are you asking them out of a sense of obligation and politeness? Or are you asking because you’re genuinely curious about how they’re doing? There’s a big difference—and most of us can usually sense which category someone falls into.

This tactic for building rapport is about going beyond the general niceties (you know, the ones you hope to get through as fast as possible before moving into what you really want to talk about) to authentically touch base about how someone is feeling.




A few telltale signs that you share a good rapport with a colleagues:

  • Practice active listening to ensure you actually understand what’s being communicated before taking action.
  • Own your responsibilities, meet your deadlines, and follow through on promises you make to your colleagues.
  • Offer to step in and help someone when they’re overwhelmed o...

Tighter bonds and relationships: Science says that we all share a basic human motivation to affiliate with other people, and rapport helps us feel closer to the people we work with.  

How much do you really know about your coworkers? You might know little quirks like that Arial is their preferred font or that they can’t stand when someone doesn’t clear the cooking time from the break room microwave.

  • Invite a colleague to grab a quick lunch or coffee so you have some dedicated time to connect.
  • When you know somebody has a stressful day or week, stop by their desk with a treat or even a few encouraging words to let them know you’re rooting for them. 
  • Reserve some time at t...

  • Stop by their desk with a small treat to celebrate a recent win or accomplishment.
  • Offer a genuine compliment about a job well done, whether that’s one-on-one or in a team meeting.
  • Write a quick “thank you” note or email to express your gratitude for their stepping in to help...

Recognition at work is so often talked about from the top-down—as if it always has to come from senior leadership or a manager. 

In all honesty, almost everything you need to know about building rapport and being a good colleague you likely learned in kindergarten with this golden rule: treat others the way you want to be treated.

You spend a lot of time interacting with your coworkers, but that doesn’t mean you inherently share a tight-knit relationship. In fact, 41% of Americans say their coworkers are just that: coworkers. 

Officially, the word rapport is defined as a friendly, harmonious relationship. Especially: a relationship characterized by agreement, mutual understanding, or empathy that makes communication possible or easy.

  • Begin meetings with a funny or lighthearted icebreaker to get everybody comfortable and learn more about each other in the process.
  • Make an effort to actually follow up on the personal information that people openly share, whether they shared it with the whole team or you directly.

Rapport isn’t about engaging in trivial small talk with someone once or twice—that might make for an acquaintance, but not necessarily a colleague with whom you share mutual trust and understanding. 

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