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The Art of True Confidence
Authentic vulnerability
Authenticity transforms normal insecurity into grounded confidence.
While faked confidence hides insecurity, weakness and self-doubt, true authenticity owns and acknowledges these less pleasant experiences in a way that ultimately enhances our sense of self.
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What Confidence Is
True confidence is a feeling of self-assurance that is grounded in an authentic experience of our own ability, perspective and sufficiency.
It’s a stable connection to the fact that we can do what we want to do, feel how we want to feel, and be who we want to be in this world.
Why Confidence Matters
- Confidence is an amplifier of quality and success.
- Confidence is essential to influence and leadership.
- Confidence isn’t just about style. It’s also about substance.
- Confidence protects us. It's one of the greatest weapons we can develop.
Nonverbal communication
Confidence is expressed most profoundly through our bodies. No matter how well we speak, the way we feel about ourselves will always manifest in our posture, our hand movements and our facial features.
So commit to strong, positive body language and make a conscious effort to form habits that make your nonverbal communication automatic.
Vocal tonality
Vocal tonality (the physical quality of our voice, our pitch, articulation, syntax, volume and intention) expresses and reinforces our sense of self.
Speak in statements, not questions, articulate and enunciate, and avoid the use of filler words.
Authentic vulnerability
Authenticity transforms normal insecurity into grounded confidence.
While faked confidence hides insecurity, weakness and self-doubt, true authenticity owns and acknowledges these less pleasant experiences in a way that ultimately enhances our sense of self.
A process-oriented mindset
Process-oriented confidence is the opposite of the “fake it till you make it” philosophy.
While the “fake it till you make it” approach suggests we should pretend our way toward true confidence, the process-oriented approach suggests we should become our way toward true confidence.
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The first impression
First impressions are like invisible tattoos we imagine for each and every person we meet. While it is possible to change a first impression, it is very difficult to succeed doing this.
Tips to make a good first impression
In order to make a good first impression, you should consider checking out the below tips:
- suitable eye contact: it is a sign of self-confidence. However, do not exaggerate with the duration
- handshake: a good handshake is at the same time firm, warm and dry
- the proper voice: your voice should make proof of self-confidence as well
- dress similarly to the other person: this way, you will give the impression of familiarity and equal terms
- appreciate cleanliness: your face and your home should always be sparkling clean
- find the appropriate posture: relaxed and open postures are preferred to make a good impression.
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Listen to bass-heavy music
Bass-heavy music can actually trick your mind into feeling more confident.
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Groom yourself
Making yourself more pleasing to your own eyes can make you feel more confident.
When you need some extra confidence, head to a mirror and apply some makeup, fix your hair and otherwise tidy up your appearance a bit.
Take a "power posture"
Our posture can have a significant effect on our internal dialogue.
A "power posture" pose, held for several seconds to several minutes, can increase your confidence in almost any situation.
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Confidence and Freedom
Many 'high-achieving' people lack flexibility, freedom, and confidence to change things in their life when they want. This is due to the build-in traps and insecurity of living a high achievers life.
A life full of complexity and self-protection lacks confidence and independence.
What Confidence Means
- It means not equating money with happiness, being self-assured, to understand that you cannot change the world but your response to everything you experience determines your happiness.
- It means being in control of your lifestyle, to be able to learn new skills, to understand that you can be anywhere, live anywhere, work and make friends anywhere.
- It is a self-assurance that your kids will be just fine, and the real goal of your life is not to earn money but to attain happiness.
Confidence means believing that you have the personal power to get things done and that your true goal is to live happily.