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The Art of True Confidence

https://www.success.com/the-art-of-true-confidence/

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The Art of True Confidence
Confidence is one of those game-changing qualities-like rapport, empathy and courage-that is both incredibly valuable and highly elusive. As soon as we "try" to be confident, we've already failed. As soon as we "act" more confident, we're already pretending. Telling someone to "be more confident" is like telling someone to be taller.

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What Confidence Is

What Confidence Is

True confidence is a feeling of self-assurance that is grounded in an authentic experience of our own ability, perspective and sufficiency.

It’s a stable connection to the fact that we can do what we want to do, feel how we want to feel, and be who we want to be in this world.

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Why Confidence Matters

Why Confidence Matters
  • Confidence is an amplifier of quality and success. 
  • Confidence is essential to influence and leadership.
  • Confidence isn’t just about style. It’s also about substance.
  • Confidence protects us. It's one of the greatest weapons we can develop.

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Nonverbal communication

Confidence is expressed most profoundly through our bodies. No matter how well we speak, the way we feel about ourselves will always manifest in our posture, our hand movements and our facial features. 

So commit to strong, positive body language and make a conscious effort to form habits that make your nonverbal communication automatic.

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Vocal tonality

Vocal tonality (the physical quality of our voice, our pitch, articulation, syntax, volume and intention) expresses and reinforces our sense of self.

Speak in statements, not questions, articulate and enunciate, and avoid the use of filler words.

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Authentic vulnerability

Authenticity transforms normal insecurity into grounded confidence. 

While faked confidence hides insecurity, weakness and self-doubt, true authenticity owns and acknowledges these less pleasant experiences in a way that ultimately enhances our sense of self.

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A process-oriented mindset

Process-oriented confidence is the opposite of the “fake it till you make it” philosophy.

While the “fake it till you make it” approach suggests we should pretend our way toward true confidence, the process-oriented approach suggests we should become our way toward true confidence.

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Listen to bass-heavy music

Bass-heavy music can actually trick your mind into feeling more confident.

One study revealed job-interview candidates who listened to bass-heavy rap music ended up exhibiting more con...

Groom yourself

Making yourself more pleasing to your own eyes can make you feel more confident.

When you need some extra confidence, head to a mirror and apply some makeup, fix your hair and otherwise tidy up your appearance a bit.

Take a "power posture"

Our posture can have a significant effect on our internal dialogue.

A "power posture" pose, held for several seconds to several minutes, can increase your confidence in almost any situation.

Stand tall

A tall, correct posture is the outer sign of confidence.

A study showed that a tall, expansive posture helps you feel and consequently act more powerful than more drawn-in stances.

Listen to bass-heavy tunes

Researchers found that listening to bass-heavy tunes may have the ability to make you feel more confident.

Recall a time you were powerful

Remember the small moments where you were confident. It can make you feel (and as a result, act) more confident.