Why It Doesn't Pay to Be a People-Pleaser - Mindful
The act of pretending translates into a big conscious effort of willpower that drains your brain of its ability to focus and do deep work.
Self-control is like a muscle, and like any muscle, when used repeatedly, it tires and will perform poorly. You'll also feel a lot of stress and anxiety in your body.
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Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less. - CS Lewis
Self-esteem that is bound to external success can lead to small spurts of happiness but is no...
Research shows that feeling “rushed” is a one-way street to stress and unhappiness. Too much boredom can be burdensome.
To find a balance, learn to say "no" to opportunities that do not excite you.
They (should) determine your priorities, and, deep down, they're probably the measures you use to tell ...
Prioritize your top values.
Reaffirm your values.
Emotions like overwhelm, anger, and frustration may indicate that others are intruding on your personal time or space.
Instead of pushing the feelings away, try understanding them. It ...
Start conversations about boundaries with a disclaimer to set the stage for a compassionate, permissive discussion.
Share your resolution to set boundaries. Explain why it’s important to you and how you believe it will benefit you.
People who have trouble setting boundaries usually have trouble responding to boundaries set by others.
Instead of feeling dismissed, angry, or rejected when friends or lovers put limits on your interactions, respond with “I value your honesty” or “I appreciate you sharing that with me”—even if the boundary was difficult to hear.