The Cure for Toxic Positivity
Seeking out people who draw out the positive side only can make you feel alone in your moments of vulnerability.
The relationship becomes a performance of happiness and creates a wedge between you.
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When someone is going through a hard time, insisting they stay strong is ineffective.
Research suggests positivity often has the opposite effect: It makes them feel bad about feeling bad on top of the original problem. It also increases the risk of depressive symptoms later on.
Be aware of how your friends react to your sunny attitude. If it makes them perk up, you are doing good.
However, if your encouragement makes them withdraw, your positivity might be misplaced.
Even if you are well intentioned, it's best to consider this question: Are they asking for encouragement or do they just need to vent?
Often, they just need someone to listen to them without reaching a solution.
A question as simple as "How did you feel?" can help them feel that you share in their experience.
Empathize with them instead of offering positive cliche's. For instance, say "That sounds rough. Tell me what happened," instead of "You'll get past it."
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John T. Reed, a real estate investor, looked into the accuracy of Kiyosaki's best-selling book and found it inaccurate:
According to John T. Reed the famous book is filled with bad advice:
Many critics pointed out that Kiyosaki is selling a cult, not financial advice.
He is accused of tapping into the fantasies of the masses & being short on specifics, both attributes of religious cults.
Stress is largely caused not by other people or external events, but by your reactions to them.
But pressure could be converted into stress, when rumination appears: the tendency to keep rethinking past or future events while attaching negative emotion to those thoughts.
Rumination is ongoing and destructive, diminishing your health, productivity, and well-being.
Stand or sit up, clap your hands, and move your body. Connect with your senses by noticing what you can hear, see, smell, taste, and feel. The idea is to reconnect with the world.
Most of the rumination happens when you are in a state called “waking sleep": when you are doing things, but you aren't really paying attention to them.
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