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Once you resolve much of your shame, and once you’ve created situations to provide greater emotional benefits from doing the desired behavior than not doing it, you start to experience discipline without willpower.
You wake up early because it feels good to wake up early. You eat healthy because you feel good about not eating junk and having the right diet. The pain is still there, but you work with the pain rather than against it. You pursue it rather than run from it.
When you stop feeling bad about yourself:
Most of us are afraid of messing thing up. But we rarely ask, “Would I regret that failure?” If the answer is “no,” then that is absolutely a risk you should pursue.
Sometimes, the right decision becomes crystal clear when put into these terms.
Attributing depression to spontaneously low serotonin is "deeply misleading and unscientific".
According to Dr. David Healy, there was never any basis for it, ever. It was just a marketing copy.
“I don’t” is experienced as a choice, so it feels empowering. “I can’t” isn’t a choice, is a restriction.
In other words, the phrase "I don't" is a psychologically empowering way to say no, while the phrase "I can't" is a psychologically draining way to say no.