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How To Turn Awkwardness Into Confidence

Show your palms

... and gesticulate while you're speaking.

Hiding your hands and palms usually signals to your audience that you are hiding something, thus making you look less trustworthy.

Using your hands also makes your stories and arguments seem more intriguing.

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You can sense this happening when people rush to talk over one another.

Releasing Tension
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