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Pressure Doesn't Have to Turn into Stress
Put things in perspective
Try these techniques:
- Contrasting (comparing past stress to the current one, i.e., a major illness versus a missed sale)
- Questioning (asking yourself “How much will this matter in three years’ time?”)
- Reframing (looking at your challenge from a new angle: “What’s an opportunity in this situation?”)
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