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How To Make Progress When You Are Terrified

It’s OK to be uncomfortable

Putting yourself out there is very uncomfortable for most of us.

But try to remember that discomfort is pretty normal. It's just a feeling, nothing more. So allow yourself to feel uncomfortable and accept that the feeling doesn’t mean you should stop trying that new thing your considering.

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How To Make Progress When You Are Terrified

How To Make Progress When You Are Terrified

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Reframe past “failures”

Thinking about our past mistakes usually brings us feelings of despair.

You can stop this by reframing your past failures by recognizing that you did the best you could with the information that you had at that time.

It’s OK to be uncomfortable

Putting yourself out there is very uncomfortable for most of us.

But try to remember that discomfort is pretty normal. It's just a feeling, nothing more. So allow yourself to feel uncomfortable and accept that the feeling doesn’t mean you should stop trying that new thing your considering.

One step at a time

New projects can feel overwhelming, so imagining how you will get from start to finish it hard.

But you don't have to do it all in a day. Pick one small thing that will take you closer to your goal. And focus on that.

Celebrate how far you've come

Everyone has a dream. But not everyone is brave enough to act on it.

Be proud of your courage to start a new project.

Adam Grant

Adam Grant

"Ultimately, what we regret is not failure, but the failure to act."

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Force yourself to do things

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Determine and plan in advance all the critical parts of your goal, and break it down in small, actionable tasks.

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