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This Is The Most Powerful Way To Make Your Life Fantastic - Barking Up The Wrong Tree
Try A Long Walk Without A Phone
Many of us are scared of being alone with our own thoughts. Our phones are our constant companion to eliminate all moments of solitude.
But self-reflection helps us to gain insight into our values, life, and how we want to live. So, go out and take a long walk to think, without the technology that can interrupt you.
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