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Being Critical is Not the Same as Being Aware - Mindful

The observer doesn't interpret

The observer is an objective witness that takes in data without making interpretations, judgments or changes. It is not a critic.

The benefit of observing is that you can engage in an emotionally charged debate at work while remaining intellectually engaged, also accessing an emotionally neutral part. You can analyze a situation without getting frustrated.

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Being Critical is Not the Same as Being Aware - Mindful

Being Critical is Not the Same as Being Aware - Mindful

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Key Ideas

Self-awareness and Observation

The practice of mindfulness meditation promotes self-awareness. It starts with concentration and observation. Observation is to notice without judgment or interpretation. It demands a form of objectivity without regard to emotions and moods.

Detachment

Detachment is the key to effective observation. In mindfulness practice, it requires that you become an observer of yourself. In order to do that, you have to learn to split your attention.

Great leaders are great observers

Modern leadership depends on relationships. Meaningful relationships emerge when you know and understand each other. Observing others is essential for effective communication, interpersonal skills, influencing people,  managing group dynamics, and getting buy-in.

Develop your observer skills

Developing your observer-self starts with your choice to pay attention in an unemotional way. Gather information about yourself - how you move, how you feel, the effect you're having on others.

The observer doesn't interpret

The observer is an objective witness that takes in data without making interpretations, judgments or changes. It is not a critic.

The benefit of observing is that you can engage in an emotionally charged debate at work while remaining intellectually engaged, also accessing an emotionally neutral part. You can analyze a situation without getting frustrated.

An observer-self is not robotic

Being an observer-self is not to be emotionally flat or robotic, but a path that leads to better decisions and leadership results. Observation allows you to refrain from getting caught up and lost in stimuli.

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Self-Reflection

It's the ability to pay attention to your own thoughts, emotions, decisions, and behaviors.

There are three skills that can be practiced and will lead to better self-reflection:

Openness

It means seeing things for what they are, not what we think they should be.

To cultivate openness, we have to become aware of our misconceptions, default beliefs, biases, expectations and stereotypes about the world and actively try to overcome them. Keeping a Decision Journal is a good way to start.

Observation

It means being able to look at yourself with perspective and distance.

Real-time self-reflection requires us to shift our attention away from what’s happening outside and instead observe what’s happening inside. Mindfulness meditation practice is the best way to cultivate this ability.

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Expectancy Theory of Motivation

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  • You must believe you can do what it takes to achieve your goal. 
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Keystone skills

Those half dozen skills which facilitate the development of other skills. They are foundational to living a life in alignment, to having confidence and clarity, and to becoming a powerful learner and leader.