Consider what your recipients really want and need. The best way to do that is to ask them.If you'd like to gift something to a person who has stated that they prefer others make a charity donation, then, by all means, donate to that charity if you agree with its values.

The Stuff We Buy For Others

Material possessions can be powerfully alluring – whether it’s buying new stuff we don’t need or can’t afford, or holding on to things for way too long. At the extremes, these inclinations can become highly problematic. Compulsive buying-shopping disorder is characterised by an insatiable desire to buy more things, and hoarding disorder, which involves a seemingly boundless desire to keep and accumulate possessions. Even if your own situation is not so extreme, you might be struggling to feel in control of your stuff.

Compulsive Shopping Of Stuff We Don't Need

Material possessions can be powerfully alluring - whether it's buying new stuff we don't need or can't afford, or holding on to things for way too long. At the extremes, these inclinations can become highly problematic.<ul><li>Our relationship to our things has deep psychological roots, which starts during early childhood and continually gets reinforced throughout the lifespan.</li><li>Children learn that a teddy bear or blanket provides them with comfort when they are separated from their parents</li><li>Teenagers learn what is cool from their peers and typically want what they have.</li></ul>

Wanting More Possessions

<ul><li>Make a concrete commitment to change your buying and storing habits.</li><li>Put your goals in writing - this will prevent you from forgetting or changing your goals along the way.</li><li>Identify what triggers and reinforces your buying & storing behavior.</li><li>People are motivated to buy and store possessions for many reasons, only one of which is a functional need for an object.</li></ul>To figure out what maintains your behavior, ask yourself: Why you buy and keep hold of things you do not use?What prompts these desires? How do you feel right after you have acquired an item or made the decision to keep something?

What To Do

<ul><li>Make a concrete commitment to change your buying and storing habits.</li><li>Identify the environmental and emotional causes and consequences of your behavior.</li><li>Develop a plan to resist buying items you don't need.</li><li>Use a one-minute rule when making purchasing or discarding decisions: allow yourself only one minute to decide.</li><li>Track what you buy, store, and discard.</li><li>Reward yourself for meeting your goals.</li></ul>

How to Have Less Stuff

Triggers: Being in a shopping centre; being with friends in a shopping centre; seeing something that fits with my style and is on sale; wanting to look good for an upcoming special event; believing I’ve earned it because I’ve worked hard.Behaviour: Buying clothes that I think I need, but really just want.Consequences: Enjoyment while shopping; feeling happy when shopping with friends.

Buying Stuff: Triggers, Behaviour And Consequences

Do your possessions hold too much power over you? Learn to regain control – and benefit your wallet and the planet