Rising Above Blame - Deepstash

Bite‑sized knowledge

to upgrade

your career

Ideas from books, articles & podcasts.

Rising Above Blame

The more often you play the blame game, the more you lose. Learning to tell when you need to own up to your role in a bad situation will help you grow from your experiences, and ultimately help you achieve more fulfilling relationships.

1

STASHED IN:

140

MORE IDEAS FROM THE SAME ARTICLE

  • Blame is a good defense mechanism and protects your self-esteem by avoiding awareness of your own failings.
  • Blame is a tool of attack that can hurt others and a destructive conflict resolution method.
  • We’re bad at analyzing people's behavior, or even our own. The attributions...

Theoretically, anyone who intentionally practices an immoral act is culpable regardless of the consequences. But in most cases, people sign up for what is called “moral luck”.

Moral luck is the belief that you should hold someone to blame only if the action causes harm to others, not for th...

This isn’t just false modesty or fishing for reassurance; some people do believe that they cause every bad thing all or most of the time.

Blaming yourself when something goes wrong might, relates to a general tendency to make internal attributions for failure in which you see yourself as in...

  • People who can always find something else to blame.
  • People who blame themselves for everything, even when they’ve had nothing to do with an unfortunate outcome.
  • People who blame fate or a higher power, especially when there’s no one else who could conceivably have caused the ...

Discover and save more ideas by creating a

FREE

Deepstash account.

Develop a

reading habit

, save

time

and create an amazing

knowledge library

.

GET THE APP:

MORE LIKE THIS

The actor-observer bias

When a person experiences something negative, they will blame the circumstances. When something negative happens to another person, they will blame the individual for their behaviors.

For example, when a doctor tells someone their cholesterol levels ar...

14

STASHED IN:

164

We judge ourselves and others morally for things that didn't come out as intended, were unforeseen, or were influenced by factors beyond one's control. 

The judgment we should receive is based on how our actions turned out, rather than our intentions, no matter how good they were...

1

STASHED IN:

78

You are broke because of you

You are broke because your financial decisions were not the best, in the past.

This not about winning the lottery or landing in a high-paying job. Just by changing your behavior, this situation can be fixed.

3

STASHED IN:

142