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5 Reasons We Play the Blame Game

Rising Above Blame

The more often you play the blame game, the more you lose. Learning to tell when you need to own up to your role in a bad situation will help you grow from your experiences, and ultimately help you achieve more fulfilling relationships.

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Parenthood, the Great Moral Gamble - Issue 2: Uncertainty - Nautilus

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I didn't choose to have a child. Not if "choosing" means something rational-weighing pros and cons, coming to a conclusion. I tried that process but ran away from it because, even though I wanted a child, it seemed to me that creating a whole new person was such an enormity that no one could rationally decide to do such a thing.

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Moral Luck

We judge ourselves and others morally for things that didn't come out as intended, were unforeseen, or were influenced by factors beyond one's control.

The judgment we should rece...

Feeling Morally Responsible

Some people do their parenting in difficult circumstances, and nothing that is done by them as parents is fully under their control.

The good and bad traits that parents possess can find their way in the child, with them having no say as to what the child will eventually become or do.

The Inner Paradox

Due to so many factors at play, parents are relying on good luck, pulling off a gamble on the child that is being raised. They don't have much leverage on the outcome, the net result of the actions of their offspring.

There is an inner paradox, a duality that exists in the minds of parents, which can make them accept and also reject the responsibility they have towards their kids' actions.

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Blame is Useless

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'I hate the person who invented Mondays.' I saw that phrase on someone's Facebook status a week or two ago, and it made me smile. It's definitely an understandable sentiment. I remember miserable grade-school mornings, being dragged out of bed by my mom. All I could do was grumble bitterly, 'I hate the person who invented school!'

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Blaming Others

We have a tendency to find some part of our environment to scold — a person or thing — whenever we run into some kind of problem in our lives.

We search for a source to our suffering and we tend to ...

Why We Blame

Blame is a defense mechanism. What we’re defending ourselves from is our own responsibility for dealing with the unpleasant experience we’ve been given.

The benefit in blame is that it allows us to avoid feeling like we’re failing ourselves, that we lack the strength and maturity to come to terms with the reality of unfairness or bad luck.

The Blame Reflex

We can feel safe in pretending that our distress is not evidence of inadequacy in ourselves, but of one in someone else.

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Stop Being Broke Now | Real Estate Investing | Blog

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There really isn't anything profound to say. This is not a complex or difficult problem to solve on paper. It's simple: you're broke because of your poor financial decisions. You need to change your behavior to fix that, which is what makes this situation so difficult-but also entirely possible.

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You are broke because of you

You are broke because your financial decisions were not the best, in the past.

This not about winning the lottery or landing in a high-paying job. Just by changing your behavior, this situati...

How to fix your money problems

Your financial issues are fixable if you:

Take your money seriously
Stop unnecessary consumerism
Stop making and defending your bad decisions.

The broke leading the broke

A majority of people are broke, actually. We are not taking our money seriously, and just living paycheck to paycheck. We are doing it because there are so many like us, around us, doing the same.

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