Befriend your insecurities

Once you resolve much of your shame, and once you’ve created situations to provide greater emotional benefits from doing the desired behavior than not doing it, you start to experience discipline without willpower.

You wake up early because it feels good to wake up early. You eat healthy because you feel good about not eating junk and having the right diet. The pain is still there, but you work with the pain rather than against it. You pursue it rather than run from it.

• Most people think of self-discipline in terms of willpower only, which is wrong.
• Individuals who are able to follow the set rules of self-discipline also tend to be the ones who enjoy the routine.
• To succeed in your self-discipline routine, your willpower must be trained steadily over a long period of time.

Regret can be seen as a mistake that we haven't learned the proper lesson from yet. If we learn from it, that mistake becomes helpful and makes us better.

The way to move on is to take responsibility for your mistakes. Understand what happened and integrate that experience into your understanding of who you are today.

Our narratives are the way our minds construct events to explain our feelings and experiences. 

They are seldom accurate and often unhelpful, but we need them to hold our sense of self in place.