<ul><li>A purpose is a sort of focal point. It's the center of your life, around which you can organize all your actions so that each has significance. It also gives you the energy to pursue your goals and encourages perseverance.</li><li>Purpose often means having a calling—an. Overwhelming urge to follow a particular path in life.</li><li>How do I see my work? Is it just a way to make money?</li><li>Do you find it interesting, but only if you make progress and get that promotion?</li></ul>

Purpose is What Gives Meaning to Our Lives

Abraham Maslow himself was working on a deeper way to understand the whole of human existence when he died in 1970. These ideas expand on his work and reimagine it, showing how self-actualization is about integrating all your needs into a healthy whole that enables you to grow. They explain how realizing your full human potential can connect you not only to your best possible self, but also to the people around you.

Transcend — The New Science of Self-Actualization

<ul><li>These are experiences of heightened beauty, wonder, joy, or serenity.</li><li>Research suggests that peak experiences are great for mental health.</li><li>They increase motivation and a sense of purpose, make relationships more satisfying, reduce fear of death and encourage personal growth.</li><li>And all peak experiences have one thing in common: self-loss</li><li>When we are in the grip of insecurity, we feel unsure of ourselves or of our identity.</li><li>Experiences like these are what happy memories are made of.</li></ul>

Peak Experiences Enhance Your Sense of Self and Your Connection with the World

Human needs are all closely connected, and the greatest sense of well-being and fulfillment comes when we can integrate them into a healthy whole.

Conclusion

<ul><li>It's the desire to seek out unfamiliar information and experiences.</li><li>There are two types of exploration: behavioral exploration and cognitive exploration.</li><li>Behavioral exploration has two components: social exploration and adventure-seeking.</li><li>Social exploration: engaging with people in a way that helps us learn more about them and the world.</li><li>Cognitive exploration: reasoning and understanding the world through abstract thought.</li><li>Adventure-seekers: mastering their fear and learning new skills.</li></ul>

Exploration Enables You to Grow as a Person

In his writings, Maslow distinguished between deficiency-love (D-love) and love for a person’s whole being (B-love).B-loving people are driven by self-transcendent values, have high levels of tolerance, benevolence, and trustworthiness, and integrate two aspects of human existence that might seem contradictory.Agency involves independence and separation from others; communion involves contact, openness, and participation—being together with others.

Love is More Fulfilling When it's not Based on a Deficiency

<ul><li>Self-esteem is the result of positive accomplishments.</li><li>It has nothing to do with narcissism or egocentricity.</li><li>If you find yourself focused on improving your self-esteem, that's a sign something has gone wrong.</li><li>Healthy self-esteem has two aspects: self-worth and mastery.</li><li>In a nutshell, it comes down to liking yourself.</li><li>We're social beings, and our judgments about ourselves often factor in the judgments of others.</li><li>Mastery is the extent to which you can act intentionally, achieve your goals, and exercise your will.</li></ul>

Healthy Self-Esteem

<ul><li>Being around people fulfills a deep human need: connection with others.</li><li>The need for connection is the need for stable, positive, intimate relationships.</li><li>Belonging is about feeling protected by your group; intimacy is about loving, caring for, and protecting others with whom you have a close relationship.</li><li>Close connections hinge on what psychologist Carl Rogers calls unconditional positive regard.</li></ul>

Connection is a Fundamental Need

<ul><li>It's about being the best version of yourself, mobilizing all your resources in service of this version, and integrating them in a way that raises the standard for the whole of humanity.</li><li>Anyone can have a peak experience, regardless of what motivates them in life. But people who are transcenders are driven by transcendent values and have a vision for humanity.</li></ul>

Transcendence Involves Your Entire Being

<ul><li>Our most basic need is safety—it's the secure foundation that allows us to take risks and explore the world.</li><li>Beyond physiological needs like hunger, our sense of safety comes down to how we relate to the people around us—attachment is one of the ways in which our relationships with others begin in childhood, and as we grow older our attachment style plays a key role in our relationships.</li></ul>

The Need For Safety is the Basis of all Other Needs

These ideas show how self-actualization is about integrating all your needs into a healthy whole that enables you to grow. They explain how realizing your full human potential can connect you not only to your best possible self, but also to the people around you.

A bold reimagining of Maslow's famous hierarchy of needs--and new insights for realizing your full potential and living your most creative, fulfilled, and connected life. When psychologist Scott Barry Kaufman first discovered Maslow's unfinished theory of transcendence, sprinkled throughout a cache of unpublished journals, lectures, and essays, he felt a deep resonance with his own work and life. In this groundbreaking book, Kaufman picks up where Maslow left off, unraveling the mysteries of his unfinished theory, and integrating these ideas with the latest research on attachment, connection, creativity, love, purpose and other building blocks of a life well lived. Kaufman's new hierarchy of needs provides a roadmap for finding purpose and fulfillment--not by striving for money, success, or "happiness," but by becoming the best version of ourselves, or what Maslow called self-actualization. While self-actualization is often thought of as a purely individual pursuit, Maslow believed that the full realization of potential requires a merging between self and the world. We don't have to choose either self-development or self-sacrifice, but at the highest level of human potential we show a deep integration of both. Transcend reveals this level of human potential that connects us not only to our highest creative potential, but also to one another. With never-before-published insights and new research findings, along with exercises and opportunities to gain insight into your own unique personality, this empowering book is a manual for self-analysis and nurturing a deeper connection not only with our highest potential but also with the rest of humanity.

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A bold reimagining of Maslow's famous hierarchy of needs--and new insights for realizing your full potential and living your most creative, fulfilled, and connected life. When psychologist Scott Barry Kaufman first discovered Maslow's unfinished theory of transcendence, sprinkled throughout a cache of unpublished journals, lectures, and essays, he felt a deep resonance with his own work and life. In this groundbreaking book, Kaufman picks up where Maslow left off, unraveling the mysteries of his unfinished theory, and integrating these ideas with the latest research on attachment, connection, creativity, love, purpose and other building blocks of a life well lived. Kaufman's new hierarchy of needs provides a roadmap for finding purpose and fulfillment--not by striving for money, success, or "happiness," but by becoming the best version of ourselves, or what Maslow called self-actualization. While self-actualization is often thought of as a purely individual pursuit, Maslow believed that the full realization of potential requires a merging between self and the world. We don't have to choose either self-development or self-sacrifice, but at the highest level of human potential we show a deep integration of both. Transcend reveals this level of human potential that connects us not only to our highest creative potential, but also to one another. With never-before-published insights and new research findings, along with exercises and opportunities to gain insight into your own unique personality, this empowering book is a manual for self-analysis and nurturing a deeper connection not only with our highest potential but also with the rest of humanity.

Scott Barry Kaufman, Ph.D., is a humanistic psychologist exploring the depths of human potential. He has taught courses on intelligence, creativity, and well-being at Columbia University, NYU, the University of Pennsylvania, and elsewhere. In addition to writing the column Beautiful Minds for Scientific American, he also hosts The Psychology Podcast, and is author and/or editor of 9 books, including Transcend: The New Science of Self-Actualization, Wired to Create: Unravelling the Mysteries of the Creative Mind (with Carolyn Gregoire), and Ungifted: Intelligence Redefined. In 2015, he was named one of "50 Groundbreaking Scientists who are changing the way we see the world" by Business Insider. Find out more at http://ScottBarryKaufman.com.

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