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The hourglass effect

The hourglass effect

We are authentic when we're very young and when we're old, but in the middle, we develop the "I complex." The hourglass model helps you figure out which "I" you mean when you say "I". 

  • If you have a superiority complex, you think you're the most important person in the room.
  • If you have an inferiority complex, you suffer from an over-modest self-regard.
  • Both are signs of a fragile ego.

A third way is a made-up word called 'interiority. ' where you know that nobody can be like you. Other people have their things, but you have yours. Theirs can never compare to yours.

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Your ego: What you think of you

On the one extreme of your ego, you feel on top of the world. On the other extreme, you have days where nothing works. Your legs don't work, your mouth doesn't work.

Your entire life is about building a stable relationship with your ego. Your challenge is to take the ego fr...

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Your adaptive personality

Your adaptive personality

When you figure out how to be yourself, it's incredibly liberating. You're not just somebody's boss or somebody's mom. You're yourself.

While you can never be perception-less, you can be perception-free. Tune into what you would like everybody else to think of you. It's not about being fake...

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How other people see you

How other people see you

When you look in a mirror, the face looking back at you isn't the face that everybody else sees. It's a reversed, somewhat distorted image. 

The True Mirror was invented by a brother and sister team in New York. They discovered if you put two mirrors together at right angles and remove the ...

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Intervals of possibility

You're already different. Your job is to figure out how and then become more of that.

At certain times, your life will lend itself to change. It will make change quicker and deeper. These are intervals of possibility.

You meet a stranger at a bar, or your boss offers...

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Your life is your message

You may not be as big a message as Gandhi's but your life has to be your message.

So, when you think about your identity and what it means to be alive, you're not your thoughts. You can't be your feelings. You're not what you have, nor what you do. You're not even who you love or who loves...

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How to be yourself

Where you were born, when you were born, and to whom you were born all have a particular influence or impact on how you become who you are. 

Figure out what you expect from life and what life expects from you. A good starting point where you were fantastic at being yourself...

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Who do you think you are?

Who do you think you are?

Your job is not to copy remarkable individuals. Your task is to be as unlike them as you can possibly be. You have to be as good at being you as they are at being them.

So, ask yourself, 'Who do you think you are?'  Just be yourself, because when you're yourself, you're fab...

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Being unique

Being unique

When you look at truly remarkable individuals, not monetarily successful, but people achieving what they set out to do, you'll find that the one thing they have in common is that they have nothing in common.

They have managed to find their unique gift and put that at the se...

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The first step in the acquisition of wisdom is silence, the second listening, the third memory, the fourth practice, the fifth teaching others.

Wisdom From Ms Caroline McHugh, CEO of IDOLOGY.

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