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How to Turn Uninspiring Goals Into an Epic Adventure

Fear as the Cause of Inaction

Fear causes us to procrastinate. It can be:

  • Fear of change
  • Fear of leaving our comfort zone
  • Fear of the unknown
  • Fear of failure
  • Fear of what other people would think of us

We justify these fears by imaginary different reasons, but the root cause is not related to our invented reasons, it is our inherent fear.

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How to Turn Uninspiring Goals Into an Epic Adventure

How to Turn Uninspiring Goals Into an Epic Adventure

https://observer.com/2015/09/how-to-turn-uninspiring-goals-into-an-epic-adventure/

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The Rush of Motivation

During the first week of the new year, there is a rush of motivated people who want to achieve their respective self-improvement goals. But then all this rush always tapers off, with only about 8 % of people actually managing to achieve their goals by the end of the year.

Procrastinating

Procrastination, or the way we let pending tasks linger on, just avoiding them, is one of the main reasons our goals don't materialize.

The longer any work is avoided the harder it becomes to eventually do it.

Like dishes piling up in the kitchen sink, they get harder and harder to do as the load increases.

Fear as the Cause of Inaction

Fear causes us to procrastinate. It can be:

  • Fear of change
  • Fear of leaving our comfort zone
  • Fear of the unknown
  • Fear of failure
  • Fear of what other people would think of us

We justify these fears by imaginary different reasons, but the root cause is not related to our invented reasons, it is our inherent fear.

Busy Avoiding Productive Work

We often keep working trying to avoid something we should be doing. We bury and hide in our busyness, masking our inability to face what needs to be done.
We are busy being busy, while not doing anything productive or of real value.

Being Playful

Playing or being in a playful mode is the key to dismantle fear and to achieve real productivity.

Being playful leads to creativity, adaptability, better focus and memory, improved language skills, and creative problem-solving abilities. Playing also has certain social advantages like teamwork, conflict resolution, leadership skill development

Survival Mode

Most of our lives are filled with the non-essential and the trivial, as we are in the survival mode. Nobody is doing what they really want to do, as it is a social and cultural norm to live on other people's terms.
We try to break free from this cycle by goal setting and resolving to do something for ourselves but we sometimes fail miserably. 

Ultimate Goals: The Bucket List

Our bucket list is composed of the real goals we have, that are not made by society, peer pressure or our current life stage. It is the list of things you want to do, and to experience before you die.
This is the real essence of what matters in your life. This is your legacy, your ultimate aim.

Out of the Rat Race

Your bucket list can be redefined as your ultimate adventure, your Epic Adventure, or your Quest.

Cultivate your life as you truly desire, by being aggressive in weeding out the useless stuff, while focusing on people, experiences and relationships that truly matter. Get out of your rat race and find your ability to embrace your true calling by eliminating the old and stepping in the new.

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What Happens After You Achieve Your Goals

If the goal is meaningful, it will transform you. You’ll be more confident, mature, capable of seeing even bigger adventures, and empowered to pursue them.

A quest might end better than we imagine or disastrously. Either way, there’s always another adventure if we’re willing to pursue it.

Force yourself to do things

Our mind has muscles. It memorizes patterns. By doing this over and over, you're building your willpower and self-discipline. 

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Focus on the emotional reward

Focus on the feeling you feel after doing something that you know is good for you.

  • The adrenaline rush.
  • The feeling of being fit and healthy.
  • The relief you feel after having finished a big project.
  • The pride you gain from an accomplishment.
  • The confidence you feel after having faced your fear.

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Developing Your Own Life Game
  1. Live the game you dream.
  2. Make your own Playbook. Identify the “epic players”, the current “quests”, the “bosses” and the “countermoves” in beating them.
  3. Experiment a reward system. Give points to every milestone and collect “loots” in the form of predetermined rewards.
  4. Create your “dashboard” for detailed project planning. 
  5. Keep your game simple. Do not load it with too many and complicated rules and quests.
  6. Pause for a while to regain your energy. Sticking to the game is more valuable than heroic bursts followed by inaction.
  7. Design it beautifully to be inspired to play it.
  8. Revisit and refine your game, improve your Playbook.
  9. Define boundaries. Don’t be a game addict.
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Flow is an optimal state of consciousness, when you feel and perform your best. It’s the moment of total absorption.

Time speeds up or slows down like a freeze-frame effect. Mental and physical ability go through the roof, and the brain takes in more information per second, processing it more deeply.

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The Rudders and Oars Metaphor
It helps clarify the difference between SYSTEMS and GOALS:
  • Your goals are like the rudder on a small rowboat. They set the direction and determine where you go. 
  • If you commit to one goal, then the rudder stays put and you continue moving forward. 
  • If you flip-flop between goals, then the rudder moves all around and it is easy to find yourself rowing in circles.
  • If the rudder is your goal, then the oars are your process for achieving it. While the rudder determines your direction, it is the oars that determine your progress.

Example: If you’re a writer, your goal is to write a book. Your system is the writing schedule that you follow each week.

How to Set Goals You'll Actually Follow
  1. Ruthlessly Eliminate Your Goals. Consistently prune and trim down your goals. If you can muster the courage to prune away a few of your goals, then you create the space you need for the remaining goals to fully blossom.
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  3. Set an Upper Bound. Don't focus on the minimum threshold. Instead of saying,  “I want to make at least 10 sales calls today.” rather say, “I want to make at least 10 sales calls today, but not more than 20.”

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Figure out how to create your own success tool kit /secret sauce made up of all the different skills and experiences that only you have. This is what will make you stand out and keep your service unique.

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Willpower
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Emotions

Our emotions motivate us more than willpower.

If we are generous, fair and co-operative, we have an invaluable tool to motivate us to complete our goals. If we cultivate good character, compassion, and honesty, it leads to a better chance of success in our endeavors.

Do nothing (on purpose)

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Engage in “Deliberate Rest”

Deliberate Rest means engaging with restful activities that are often vigorous and mentally engaging.

For example, Winston Churchill and Victor Hugo painted while Leo Tolstoy played chess.

Catch up on that one thing

Most of us put off tasks that stress us out. Unfortunately, this avoidance kicks off a cycle of procrastination that just causes more stress

Instead, committing to crossing one of them off of your to-do list on a day off can improve your overall well-being.

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Devote at least 15 minutes a day to your change.

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Fork over the truth

Behavior modification teaches us that we repeat behaviors that make us feel good. What’s your payoff for not changing? 

Until the goal becomes larger than the payoff, you’re always going to choose feeling good over feeling uncomfortable.

Set realistic goals

Start with one behavior at a time.

Instead of concentrating on losing 20 pounds in 20 days, for example, make a goal to simply begin by eating five fruits and vegetables a day.  

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Start off by setting a goal. This goal should be articulate and backed up with a purpose.

For some, it could be a goal of reading 24 books in a year. Once you’re done placing a target figure to your reading goal, then divide them into smaller goals.

Make a List of Books for Each Month

Write out a list of the amazing books you want to read. Ask for recommendations from friends and mentors. 

By being intentional about your reading list, you’ll stay focused on your ultimate goals and avoid lurking at any book that passes you by. 

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