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Networking is like dating

People love talking about themselves. The primary goal when you network is to connect with the other person on one thing that’s important to them. It doesn’t have to have anything to do with your outcome.

If you were seeking a spouse, you wouldn't approach a stranger and ask "Will you marry me?" Instead, you'd take the time to get to know the other person before moving ahead.

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