A lot of perfectionist tendencies are rooted in fear and insecurity

Many perfectionists have <a href="https://hbr.org/2019/02/how-to-stop-obsessing-over-your-mistakes">a proclivity to ruminate</a> — repetitively mulling over a thought or problem without ever coming to a resolution. “It’s related to anxiety,”People who ruminate tend to be “less forgiving of themselves.” It’s unhealthy, and it’s unproductive.Identify your triggers. “learn to recognize when you’re ruminating,”Don't Trust your first reaction, Try hard to get perspective and give yourself time and distance before taking action.Think positive, <a href="https://hbr.org/2018/04/how-perfectionists-can-get-out-of-their-own-way">Think about the successes you’ve had</a> in the past, reminding you of meaningful outcomes you've accomplished without being 100% certain.

4) Break the cycle of rumination

Perfectionism is a double-edged sword. It can motivate you to perform at a high level and deliver top-quality work as it can cause you unnecessary anxiety and slow you down. So how you can harness the positives of your perfectionism while mitigating the negatives? What practices can you adopt to keep your perfectionism in check?

How to manage your perfectionism

Undertake a weekly review, in which you reflect on your progress.Try to get some psychological distance and ask yourself: “Was there anything I avoided this week due to fear of making mistakes? Were there any instances where my perfectionism was not worth it? Were there any times this week when I took action, even when I felt uncertain, and ended up moving things forward?The goal is to learn where perfectionism has a positive impact and where does not."you’re not fundamentally “changing course”; rather, you’re, “redirecting your personality.”

6) Monitor your process

Managing your perfectionism also requires you to calibrate your standards.Ask always for feedback from others on your work to see if it is good enough from their perspective and adjust your own standards.“What you’re saying doesn’t have to be the final word, it just has to contribute something useful.”

2) Adjust your standards

<ol><li>Learn to recognize the point of diminishing returns when you’re aiming to complete a task perfectly. Sometimes just getting it done is a worthy goal.</li><li>Reflect on your progress. Identify examples of when you successfully moderated your perfectionist tendencies.</li><li>Calibrate your standards. Oftentimes what you’re writing or saying doesn’t have to be the final word, it just has to contribute something useful.</li></ol>

<ol><li>Mistake ruminating for problem-solving. When your mind is twisting and turning, seek out distractions to break the cycle.</li><li>Toil in pursuit of an amorphous goal of perfection. Create a checklist that ensures you follow a process with measurable targets.</li><li>Go it alone. Ask others — a trusted colleague, friend, or mentor — for perspective and support.</li></ol>

Don't

Create a checklist for each task to know when it will be done independently of your satisfaction level.“You’re following a process with discrete and measurable goals,”. Once you’ve ticked off the items on your list, “you’re done.”

3) Create a checklist

"The pursuit of perfection is a bit like wandering on an aimless journey, You keep walking and walking, but you’re not sure that you’re getting any closer to your destination”

Many perfectionists worry that if they let go of their [meticulousness and conscientiousness], it will hurt their performance and standing. And so they cling to their perfectionism even when it’s counterproductive.

Psychological Causes

Talk to someone about your tendencies, and be honest and open. Make it clear that you want to hear how you come across.  “Say, ‘I may get defensive, but I promise to think about what you say.’” And be sure to make good on that pledge.

5) Get perspective

“Ask yourself: Am I using my time wisely? Am I being productive?” focusing on “maximizing the impact” of your work.You’re going to be “less perfect about some things, so you can concentrate on what’s important.”

1) See the big picture

I've always been struggling with being less productive and less accomplished until I've discovered that I actually suffer from perfectionism. This article had helped me at that time to start thinking differently and getting things done appropriately !

Perfectionism is a double-edged sword. On one hand, it can motivate you to perform at a high level and deliver top-quality work. On the other, it can cause you unnecessary anxiety and sometimes annoy your colleagues. How can you harness the positives of your perfectionism while mitigating the negatives? Start by recognizing the opportunity cost of your behavior. Sure, you can spend an additional five hours making that PowerPoint presentation perfect, but is that a productive use of your time? Will it make a material difference to your boss or client? Focus on maximizing the impact of your effort so you can concentrate on what’s important. Similarly, learn to calibrate your standards. Of course, as a perfectionist you’re never going to aim for merely adequate — nor should you. But the next time you find yourself nitpicking niggling details, ask a trusted colleague for feedback. You may discover that your first draft is already good enough.

MATT PLUMMER

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