Practice Awareness & the Powerful Pause

• Ask yourself if you really want to commit yourself fully to changing a habit. Sleep on it, and ask yourself again, before you half commit.It will come with difficulty, falling on your face, and a new way of seeing yourself. Is this something you want?
• If the answer is absolute yes … ...

We don’t do unhelpful things with the intent to harm ourselves, for the most part. We do them because the unhelpful habit is meeting some need.

• The need might be something like:
• I’m bored and want a dopamine hit
• I feel bad about myself and want to ...

Change your environment, so that you aren’t likely to do the old habit. Ask people who live and work with you to hold you accountable.

Making it hard to do the old compulsive habit is called “Creating a Moat.” Don’t let your future self, at a moment of weakness, have a...

When we seek to change a habit that we think is embarrassing, we usually try to do it in private, so no one can see our shame. This is a mistake.

Doing it alone is very, very hard, and it also reinforces the idea that we are doing something shameful, and that we should be doing this on our...