The Three Options

Ambivalence is an uncomfortable feeling. Heavy with contradictions, it makes us doubt our feelings and choices. It can cause us to think we’ve failed or that, no matter what decision we make, we will fail. This discomfort makes us crave a definitive answer. So we force ourselves one way or the other. It usually falls along three lines:

• Option 1: We Leave. We cut and run. 
• Option 2: We justify staying even though it doesn’t feel right.
• Option 3: We hold the ambivalence.