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The single biggest trait that contributes to your growth.

Pride stunts our growth

True humility allows you to plot Point A and accept that risk and failure are part of moving to Point B.

  • On the other hand, pride allows us to say we are beginners, but not to accept the process of learning that involves risk and failure. 
  • Then pride tries to protect our ego by convincing us that the price of possible failure is too great to achieve something new.

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The single biggest trait that contributes to your growth.

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The starting point

We are often excited at the idea of learning something new. We are excellent at identifying new skills and can visualize how they may change our life. 

But, we tend to overlook where we are starting from because a realistic starting point is hard on our pride.

Pride stunts our growth

True humility allows you to plot Point A and accept that risk and failure are part of moving to Point B.

  • On the other hand, pride allows us to say we are beginners, but not to accept the process of learning that involves risk and failure. 
  • Then pride tries to protect our ego by convincing us that the price of possible failure is too great to achieve something new.

Humility and growth

Humility brings growth. Pride is good at trying to convince us that we are not prideful.

Approach learning and growth with real humility. Accept that pride affects us all and will try to limit you. Failure is part of the process. Set aside your ego and simply move past the failure. Make adjustments, and continue the process anew.

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