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The age of envy: how to be happy when everyone else's life looks perfect

Hyper Envy

As people get more and more connected through social media and internet-based tools, they get exposed to things that make them envious.

Envy has always existed, but in the age of social media, it has become 'hyper-envy' or an extreme form of envy.

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The age of envy: how to be happy when everyone else's life looks perfect

The age of envy: how to be happy when everyone else's life looks perfect

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/oct/09/age-envy-be-happy-everyone-else-perfect-social-media

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Hyper Envy

As people get more and more connected through social media and internet-based tools, they get exposed to things that make them envious.

Envy has always existed, but in the age of social media, it has become 'hyper-envy' or an extreme form of envy.

Comparisons With Everyone

The world has gotten smaller due to social media, as everything is instantly visible to all.

A few years ago, we just had our neighbors to compare with and were oblivious of the rest of the world. Now everyone is accessible and comparisons are rife.

The Envy Is Real

We have the smartphones that we carry with us 24/7, always able to catch what other people are up to and feel envious about it.

Even if we use logic and intellect to tell ourselves that the images that we see on social media may not be real or factual, as they can be edited/filtered, they still affect us on an emotional level.

Universal Envy

All age groups and social classes of people feel envy when they see their peers, family, and friends on social media, apparently doing better than they are.

Some may find the youthful looks and hair envious, while others may find the displayed lifestyle to be stirring them emotionally.

Self-Envy

It is an emotional feeling of being envious of our own created avatar on social media.

When a person curates, edits and filters his life to show the very best, it doesn't seem to match the actual life led by the person, making it seem like someone else.

Envy and Hatred

Envy is much more than just craving the lifestyle a person sees his friends or peers having.

Envy is deep-rooted hatred, a feeling of wanting to destroy the other person who you think is having a better life than you are. It is silently destructive and malice oriented.

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