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Same-Sex Couples

Negativity seems to be less of a problem in same‑sex couples.

Both male and female couples tend to be more positive than heterosexual couples when dealing with conflict, both in the way that they introduced a disagreement and in the way that they responded to the criticism, and they remained more positive afterward.

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THEATLANTIC

How Negativity Can Kill a Relationship

theatlantic.com

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