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How to Make the Right Connections When You Don't Already Have an "In"
Create Content to Attract People
Creating content to attract the right kind of people towards you is a good and proven technique for getting to know people.
Understand that instead of going to them, you have to attract them to you.
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The Advice Trap
It happens when one rushes to provide advice, which is most likely to be discarded or ignored, even if the person was asked for it.
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Word Play When Asking For Advice
When someone mentions a problem, it most likely isn’t the core problem but only an outward symptom.
Even if by some miracle one is able to find out the real problem, it does not mean that the advice doled out will be useful or will be implemented.
Ignorance And Superficial Knowledge
Most people are ignorant of their ignorance and live in a self-created bubble of superficial knowledge, which they believe is the only true knowledge there is, due to a cognitive bias known as the Dunning-Kruger effect.
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Reframing the process
Most professionals know the value of networking, but due to time constraints, family obligations, or being introverts, they aren't able to build a network.
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Understand what networking is
Some people see networking as some sort of classless transaction.
They need to re-frame this activity as a way to make interesting friends and acquaintances in the long run.
Identify people you respect
Apart from the networking process, many people who shy away from networking are not trusting the people involved.
The solution is to identify the people you truly respect (maybe by making a list) and build a quality offline network, taking the help of professional networking sites like LinkedIn.
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Focus on learning
The chips aren’t always going to fall where you want them to, but if you understand that reality going in, you can be prepared to wring the most value out of the experience, no matter the outcom...
Redefining failure
Behind many fears is worry about doing something wrong, looking foolish, or not meeting expectations — in other words, fear of failure. By framing a situation you’re dreading differently before you attempt it, you may be able to avoid some stress and anxiety.
Approach goals vs. avoidance goals
Goals can be classified as approach goals or avoidance goals based on whether you are motivated by wanting to achieve a positive outcome or avoid an adverse one.
When you’re dreading a tough task and expect it to be difficult and unpleasant, you may unconsciously set goals around what you don’t want to happen rather than what you do want.