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Becoming More Adaptive
We must ask what we’re contributing to the existing dynamic, then ask each other the following fundamental questions to become more adaptable.
- Does this arrangement still work?
- What will help us to thrive during this transition?
- What do we want to take with us from our previous relationship stage?
- What do we want to leave behind?
- What conversations do we need to have?
- How do we redistribute our resources to meet this moment?
- What do we do if we find it difficult to adapt?
- How do we remind each other that we’re in it together?
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A Relationship Is Like a Perennial Plant
Both become more resilient as they learn how to balance the contradictions required for growth.
Under the soil, the plant needs stable roots. Above, it needs to bend in the wind. It needs sunshine and rain, attention and space. It changes with the seasons. When it outgrows its pot, it need...
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We’re Changing Faster Than Ever Before
For most of human history, there was little ambiguity about transitioning from one relationship stage to another. Religious and societal rituals made puberty, courting, marriage, pregnancy and death predictable.
These days, we are making up the rules in real-time. Modern love means our rela...
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Making sense of the world together
This is the secret of really good conversations.
Many of our best conversations, whether with people we have just met or with old friends, are about the world around us rather than ourselves. These are also often the conversations that bring us closer to each other.
4. Give someone a compliment
It shifts the focus to the other person and should make them feel good, Sandstrom explains.
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