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Coping with conflict is the goal, but that doesn't mean you have to confront your friend every single time they do something that bothers or annoys you.
A helpful way to assess if it's worth going to them about it is if it is a recurring issue or a situation that has continued to affect how you perceive your friend and how you show up in your friendship.
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If you've given yourself a chance to prepare for the conversation, you should also extend the same courtesy to your friend.
Consider if they are in a space where they can actually receive and process your feelings. If not, it's likely that they will go into fight-or-flight mode.
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If you have been approached by a friend about how you've hurt them, remember that they care enough to bring it to you and are willing to be their vulnerable self with you
This is your friend showing that they're invested in you enough to want to work through this issue
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Your level of closeness to the person is a factor worth considering when deciding whether to bring up an issue with your friend.
Conflict isn't automatically an indicator of incompatibility; it may simply be the sign of differing preferences that can be bridged with communication.
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The popular belief that a friendship shouldnโt make you uncomfortable and that you should cut someone off at the first sign of tension or disappointment has seeped into the collective consciousness
Relationship experts agree: Thatโs not real friendship.
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When sharing your dilemma, keep the focus of your words on you and how you feel by using "I" statements.
Start by expressing how it made you feel when your friend did what they did. Feelings are information, not fact.
This also helps you understand that there is more than one reality,...
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Before the conversation ends, let your friend know that you hear them. Confirm what has upset them, and verbalize that you care and understand where they're coming from.
If you would like to avoid hurting them in the future, express how you will go about it next time.
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The pain of seeing your friend leave helps to reinforce how much they mean to you.
It can be helpful to talk about your hopes or expectations about how often you'll talk, or when you'll see each other. Talk about the value of your friendship.
The halo effect influences how you judge others. Just because someone has a single positive trait doesn't mean you should form a favourable opinion of them. Conversely, just because they have a single negative quality doesn't mean you should form a negative impression.
If youโre proactively trying to gain a new perspective, you might find thinking about an issue is helpful. If youโre repetitively thinking about how you wish things were different or imagining all the things that could go wrong, youโre overthinking.
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