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The Inner Game: Why Trying Too Hard Can Be Counterproductive

The Inner Game way of learning

We should pay attention to how we learn and if we're learning in the best possible way:

  • Observe your existing behavior without attaching judgment to it.
  • Once you are aware of what you're doing, picture the desired outcome.
  • Trust yourself and "let it happen."
  • Continue a "nonjudgmental, calm observation of the results" to repeat the cycle and keep learning.

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